Is it normal that i fear my brother might be attracted to me?

Well I recently got back in touch with my half brother who's only two years younger than me, back when we were younger, when I still lived in the Bronx we were around eachother 24/7 along with my half sister --------.

We all have the same father but different mothers, and I was talking to him one day just to catch up on everything i've missed and vice versa, nothing's changed we're still the same way towards eachother though he's alittle thugish, but we're alos a little closer as well.

What worries me is I think he might actually be attracted to me, and that's a little bit of a problem considering his mother and my mother would be livid if this was true, and being that i'm gay it doesn't help either.

What brought this is up was a conversation we were having, he's not too happy living with his mom and her boyfriend, this I know very well because I can feel the hatred he has for her which saddens me but I understand why, So I told him when he and I graduate, and finally get my license and a car, that I would go back to New York and find an apartment, and stay close to him so if he ever needed me i'd be there, and a deal we made was if he finished high school like i'm going to, that he can come live with me for as long as he needs, and wants to.

The problem is that i'm going to be with my adopted sister so if anything we'd end up in a two bedroom apartment, and so he asked me if me and him were going to share a room, I told him i'm not sure probably if he didn't mind and he said that he would prefer sharing a room with me rather than being seperated, then he asked me if we'd be sharing a bed, and I said i'd most likely get him a bed before that and he told me that he'd rather sleep in the same bad with me than in a bed alone, and he asked if i'd be okay with that, and preferably I wouldn't mind considering i'm afraid of the dark, and I do need a sense of security when I sleep in order to fall asleep, and he told me that he'd hold me to help me sleep, and at first I thought that was just a joke but he was serious, and honestly I wouldn't mind.

Then another conversation we had we talked about our bodies just outta curiosity and he seemed very, very interested, and he made certain comments to where I could not tell whether or not they were jokes. At one point the conversation turned into a fetish topic and I told him I am a Masochist and that I like pain, and he seemed rather intrigued by that....and he also asked me about the sexual things I have done.

I'm a little worried because I don't want him being attracted to me, because I don't want to violate him in any way, Do you think I should be worried or does he just love me?

{I'm 20 years old and i'm a guy
He's 18 years old}

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  • I think you should drop plans of living together and throw cold water all over this relationship because nothing good will come of it.

    You have enough to deal with as a young gay male. You do not need the problems of a thuggish, manipulative, half-brother who obviously wants to experiment with incestuous sex.

    If you are going to screw anything, screw your head back on right.

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    • Jen118584

      ^ I completely agree.

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    • lalaforthehaha

      Ily ollieo you always give the best advice :)

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  • nicole0722

    I am pretty sure that what your brother may be experiencing is genetic sexual attraction. It's very common among adoptees and their birth family. It happens in about 50% of reunions. I know that you guys are not adopted but it still has the same effect since you guys did not grow up together he didn't get to bond with you like normal siblings bond with each other when they live together. I think you should talk to him about his feelings and let him know you still care about him even though he feels that way and that you will always be there for him but never in that way. Ok well if you have any questions feel free to hit me up anytime! I hope I could help

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  • DannyKanes

    Weird :-S

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  • amberinboston

    Don't move back to new york for him. Let him find his own way. And YES HE WAS FLIRTING. I HAVE HALF SIBLINGS TOO...AND I DRAW THE LINE BECAUSE They are into things I'm not into.
    Family or not, protect yourself, and never cross the line from family to sexual partner or even experimentation. You'll regret it for the rest of your life.
    (Hugs)
    Amber

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  • BlackLamb

    ^separate towns too

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  • Senken

    separate beds work great.

    separate rooms work wondersa

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  • i was going to say yes until i seen you are both males
    so no if you was his sister then yeah but no because you are both male and i wouldn't slide that way no how, good i like to see and laugh at people in pain :-

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  • johndoesmith

    Embrace each other wholeheartedly.

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  • Wow.what a story..i wouldnt really know what i'd do if i were in this situation.Well,first things first.try asking if he's gay?..or why don't you ask him about his previous girlfriends or go bring him to clubs and introduce him to girls,or if you see a hot girl passing by say 'damn she's hot' but if he doesnt say a thing or justgive you a certain look..then you'll know if he's gay..i mean like from the story it sounds like hes gay..hold you in your bed while you sleep?..i have guy friends who have younger bro's they usually end up smoking weed or having a fight(playing around) to show their so called brotherly love...well,my advice doesnt help..but oh well..goodluck.oh yea,i suggest you get a date?and get him a date too..like a double date..see how he acts all night..take care =)

    Isobel

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  • coloredpencils

    I think you should watch it... it may just be he really looks up and loves his older half brother. If he does try anything you just need to sit him down and explain that you are brothers and it cannot happen. Everyone has feelings but and if it gets to the point where you need to talk about it then by all means talk about

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