Is it normal that i fear losing a friend by being too clingy?

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Two weeks ago, I met a new girl at work [i am female] and from the second we saw each other there was a mutual feeling of being at ease in each others presence. As we both proclaim to be introverted and shy with not a lot of friends, this was the exact opposite and you could not tell that we are shy when we are together talking. Normally I find that I can't relate to most people I meet close to my age and here is someone that I have this instant connection with, mutually as we have discussed it. I like her very much and enjoy her company immensely and just enjoy hanging out and doing nothing. We have a lot in common and everything just feels easy between us. What I am wondering if it is normal is now that I have found someone who I relate to like no other person [other than my husband, but no other female friend] I am afraid that she is going to find that I am wanting to hang out too much or am messaging her too much or just that I am too clingy in general. I just really enjoy her company and energy and have not found a friend connection like this ever and I do not have really any other friends that I actually want to hang out with. I'm afraid that I will become obsessed with her. I know I have insecurity issues as I have had all my life. Is this normal?

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  • Tenorsax69er
    12 years ago

    I know exactly what you're talking about. The best thing u can do is enjoy the time u do spend with her and just gauge how often she asks you to hang out or how often she calls/txt/etc. If she try's contacting u as much as u contact her over a couple weeks then you're fine. Don't worry about it :) I'm glad u found a good friend!

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  • CandyCanez
    12 years ago

    Wanting to hang out all the time might not be that normal. Maybe finding a healthy amount of time to hang out would be better but its great that you can find someone who you have a real friendship with, those are hard to come by these days :(

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    To add to this, I know she feels the same about having lots in common and enjoys my company but I am afraid that I am going to be too overwhelming and want to hang out with her too much that she might think that I'm weird that I want to spend SO much time with her and then start to back of thinking that I am too overwhelming and weird and suffocating. Because she has other friends, whereas I really, wouldn't say that I do, at least not that I really care about.

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  • Chillpill
    12 years ago

    Don't worry about it - enjoy your new friendship. There is likely to be a lot of excitement in the beginning; a lot of catching up and getting to know each other initially - a bit like falling in love with someone (just platonically) After a while you'll probably find a comfortable level of regular contact for both of you :)

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    • 19205168
      12 years ago

      That makes a lot of sense; very well put. Thank you for the input.

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