Is it normal that i expect my boyfriend to spend money on me?

I think it if it's not mutual, it's not fair. Do you ever give him anything, gift wise? Even ignoring your whole guy pays for the date thing (which I don't agree with, but whatever) why does it mean you don't have to give him anything just because you're female?

I'm pretty traditional, so yeah I think it's normal. I've noticed the guys that are into "European style" dating, or like to go dutch are GENERALLY bigger pussies. Like the non traditional men are just using feminism as an excuse to be cheap or something. I don't know, but the men who are okay with paying for dates are generally just better men. And believe me, I'm not a gold digger.

My boyfriend doesn't buy me things either, but neither of us have jobs and are so short on money. I think it's incredibly selfish for you to be expecting him to buy you things. Women/girls like you make us nice girls look bad too. See, everyone things girls are psycho because they want gifts and stuff and are really needy. I'm not in my relationship for the money or gifts, because a relationship is more than that. It shouldn't bother you not getting gifts or money or whatever, especially if you love him. :(

wait, he spends NOTHINg on you?

lets be honest *girls*, who does not like to be pampered every now and then (evrything in moderation remember that) by your boyfriend?

Its the thought that counts sometimes if my boyfriend goes out of his way to buy me a salon spa treatment for my aching back muscles, yes i will damn right appreciate it if he got me that for an xmas present, rather than nothing at all.

So you expect the guy to ALWAYS pay for EVERYTHING and to buy stuff for you every now and then. Okay. Here's my question for you. Do you ever buy anything for him, because you stated that if he never buys you anything, he doesn't love you. Well, if you never buy him anything, doesn't that mean you don't love him?

I disagree with that. I think that sometimes it's alright for the girl to pay, and expecting a guy to pay for everything is almost as bad as gold digging. If he refuses to pay, you're gonna leave him? I don't think it's right.

I'm fine with gender roles and think it's okay for both genders to do different things. I'm more attracted to guys who pay for most things and allow me to be a woman and cook for them etc

It should be mutual..sometimes you pay and sometimes he pays..Thats what I like.. I pay almost all the time, buy gifts for my gf byte i love it when she tries to pay first..I stop her and pay myself.
I love spending on her but I like uthawange when she also wants to pay.. I am also a student so money is not mine to spend. Its just me i guess

Why do you even care? If he loves you and treats you with the respect you deserve, why complain about that he's not spending money on you?
There are more things in life than having someone to pay for your dates, sweetie!

If it means so much to you, then talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll understand.

And these are the same people who claim that we should go out of our way to give women the same pay as men for less work... SEXISM IS WRONG, UNLESS IT IS AGAINST MEN.

some men are like that but it not becuse they wanaa hurt ur fellings or be slfish it beuese he benn bught up in a certen way and mabey he dosent know how to sare but it i was u give i wouldnot be ascking my man to buy me anthing only if he was buy me gifts as a supries not beaing funny or anthing but if u were like that and by the story u are telling you sound like a gold digger to me money dosent buy love or happness maby he thinks ur with him for his money so h keeps his wallet hidden if i was him id runn from u

It all depends how much the girl is worth. If she isn't blowing me 24/7 then she fails as at womaning.

Yeah a lot of this stuffs bs now. You pay you don't pay , you insult me by paying your tight if you don't I mean wtf?
I just feel like saying go thank 40 or 50 yrs of all your female buddies and bs for totally fucking up and confusing us guys once again.
Equality keeps rattling around in my brain , where'd that come from. Buy him a few things and maybe he'll get the message.

It's called equality. It's this new thing, where men and women are treated equally. It's fine if he chooses to impress you by paying for everything, but you certainly shouldn't expect it...

Chill out guys!! i will buy him gifts for sure but i dont want this relationship to be one sided!!! if i love him i will have no problem spending money on him, however he should have no problems doing so also!! by the way, we still live in a gendered world, it's more common for a man to use a woman for everything...think about it, after your first dinner out, since it's a first date, you expect him to act like a gentleman and pay, just like he opened car doors for you before, then he stammers: you are an independent woman... let's go dutch.
how would you feel??

well, if this relationship gets intimate we will share things including expenses, but in courtship i definitely expect the man to pay!!

sometimes nice girls get dumped because they refuse to be a princess. sometimes too much of a princess gets dumped too cuz she refuses to be a girl

LOL it's not best for a boy to awnser this but you should be doing the same unless the boy just offers him to buy gifts for you my sisters boyfriend bought gifts for our family ! Only her and my stepmom though hahahha k