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I've been in a Rocky relationship for almost 10 years. My parents ask me all the time "am I going to get married some day"?....truth is I would have a reception...but I just don't want to sign any papers.
Is it unfair to my boyfriend as well?
If I was in a rocky 10 year relationship there is no way I would be considering marriage, nor would I spend the money on a grand party pretending that I was.
Why don't you both spend some time working on your relationship & see what happens in the future.
Marriage is easy to drift into as well as being very expensive & emotionally draining to get out of.
When a relationship is rocky there is no reason to stay in that relationship for ten years unless you're afraid of being alone. I think it's good way to waste your life.
It's a good way to waste your life, but it's bad to waste your life, because life is too short for that crap. So I probably should have said it's a bad way to waste your life. Regardless, wasting your life isn't a good thing.
Now, I see. Let's just say it's an easy way to obtain the bad outcome of wasting one's life. Agreed?
It depends on who you married, and whether or not you are fucked up inside yourself. I think that if we're fucked up inside we are attracted to and attract to ourselves people who are also fucked up, perhaps they are fucked up in different way than we are, but they're still fucked up inside.
Regardless, I think it's a waste to remain in a bad relationship for 10 years. Ad far as I'm concerned ain't nuthin good about a rocky relationship. Being alone has it's own challenges, but it's not so bad.
What's that saying, the definition of whatever it is, "doing the same thing over and over expecting different results". So how long or how many more times are you going to try and realize that just maybe things are not going to change. Look around you the next time you are in town. There are many things to do for yourself if you need or want to make a change, the answers are all around you, it's a matter of not being afraid of change or are you afraid to be able to live.? If it's rocky after 10 years, what's the factor that's going to make it all better and peachy ? Rocky as in there's cheating, lying, spends money on other things, drugs or alcohol, or sexual abuse ? If one of your girlfriends came to you telling you what you posted, what would you say to them ? Up too the first reply said work on relationship, I would say why not spend time working on yourself. Spend a little time apart and find out what you feel is REALLY IMPORTANT TO YOU. DO NOT STAY BECAUSE IT'S EASIER, IT'S COMFORTABLE, and don't stay because you say "but I love him". That's a cheesy cop out to avoid finding something better for yourself.
Its Rocky because he has a problem with being upfront and honest with me...with A LOT of things. Whether it be big or small, he'll lie. Lol sometimes it's funny. But He's working on it and has gotten better. There are a few more issues but I'm not going to pay out all his dirty laundry
So if he lies so much, how are you going to know if he's actually telling the truth ? Some people like so much it seems they actually start to believe their own lies. I have an Ex-wife that lied to me once about having a boyfriend and being pregnant from him. If you notice 6 or 7 lines up I said "EX". If she wanted to lie to me, she could have said she hated giving blow jobs. I could live with that lie as I got the truth out of her. Also, some people get really good at telling those lies. Is he able to be honest with himself? People at work ?(If he works), his parent, your parents ? To lie about such petty stupid things, and then he has to try and remember what he told you about what and when. I don't get how people feel so insecure they have to lie about such small stuff. If I remember right it seems lieing seems to be associated with low self esteem and insecurities. So fight fire with fire. Start telling him bold outright lies. If your going to store or to get gas in car, make sure to tell him some nd story when it takes you 2 hours to get lost of bread and lunch meat. Tell him some big ass lie, but enough where he might see thru it after awhile. Then if he asks why you lied , just tell him you wanted him to see and hear how ridiculous he sounds. If I were in your situation before, I would just keep it up until he can either start being honest with you and himself, or he is dumb as a box of rocks and not see thru your lies. Good Luck. Remember- FIRE WITH FIRE. Come on you are a female, you know in the back of your mind you can be devious and you are good at manipulating. Put it to good use while you need to.
People ruin their lies staying in Rocky relationships when there’s plenty of people out there that you can get along with and enjoy life with. You only have one life so don’t destroy it which includes your own. Plus you owe it to the other person because they are not compatible with you either.
CHANGE YOUR LIFE: Do not be one of those people who stay with a one ''body'' for rest of their lives, really I bet if anyone who has some guts to break the chain will do so and find someone else you will feel better. Every person is different it makes different relationships.
No one "has" to get married. It's up to you and your boyfriend to do what the two of you decide to do together.