Is it normal that i dont want t have sex or be alone with my bf?

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Me and my boyfriend were seeing each other since last summer, in december 2010 we got together. Just after we got together properly my mum passed away ( my mum was my bestfriend).

He was really supportive and always there for me, which i found a comfort. the sex was still great.

But now i dont want to have sex with him, i've tried spicing things up but when it comes down to it, I just don't want to. this has made a real problem for us and I have started to avoid seeing when possible.

We do love each other a lot, Is it normal to feel like this with someone you love when a parent has just died?

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Based on 9 votes (6 yes)
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  • bhcrystal12
    13 years ago

    i think you should have those intimate moments with him, after all you don't want to lose another person you love.
    having these intense and romantic moments with him will get your mind off your troubles and worries.

    DO ITTTT ;)

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  • amili
    13 years ago

    I think the grief is playing catch up. Don't rush things - maybe a small break of no sex would help?

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  • moose89
    13 years ago

    You just lost someone you love, who you undoubtedly had a very strong connection with. This is going to make it difficult to form strong connections with others right away, possibly because you're subconsciously afraid of losing them as well. You might also be going through a bit of depression, and even though you may not always feel sad, your emotions can have a HUGE impact on your libido. My advice is to talk it out with him and explain how you feel and why you feel this way. It will make you feel better to get it out and it will make him feel better so he doesn't think that you're not interested in him. If he loves you, he'll listen and understand.
    xxx

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    • bigsis101
      13 years ago

      I think your write I have tried talking to him about it but does not understand what i'm going through, he just things im being of with him xxx

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