Is it normal that i dont understand my boyfriend

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My boyfriend and i have been together for about 3 years now and as much as i would like to understand him, i really don't. Everything i do makes him mad, for example, if i don't answer his call or text right away, if i wear make-up to work, if i dress nice, if i make his food wrong , absolutely nothing makes him happy. I surprise him with lunch at his work, i have been taking him to the doctor, and helping him buy groceries for his house, i have offered to make his life as stress free as possible but nothing i do is working. It seems like i do everything right , then i accidentally fall asleep without saying goodnight and he explodes. or i accidentally miss a text and he thinks I'm the worst girlfriend in the world, i am so stressed. Can someone please help me!!!!

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago | pl

    You sound like a great girl, but your bf is very ungrateful. I think that you should have a talk with him and explain how hard you work and how upset you feel. If the behavior doesn't change then leave him.

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    • Energy
      12 years ago

      Agreed, with Anime7.

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    • chatter289
      12 years ago

      Agreed, and I'm sorry to say but he sounds like a child, always needing care of and looked after so he is not upset. They say a real man wants to take care of someone not needing taking care of. I also do believe that because a certain amount of time (3years) has lapsed by and you have not said anything to him about it it, he has now become habitual to it,simply put, he has now gotten use to you doing everything, like a maid basically.Love or not, if his ass does not appreciate what you do, someone else would and you need not take shit from him. You diverse to be treated just as you are treating him, it seems like you're the only one making an effort in this relationship.

      Talk to hm, tell him exactly how it is, and of he is not understanding or does not apologise than I'm sorry, he may not be the one for you. Someone who truly loves you will apologise and change his ways and will start making it up to you. Good luck

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    It's called "dump him" how did you put up with his crap for 3 years? :/

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Can you not take the hint??

    He wants to get rid of you - but doesn't have the balls to tell you, so he's trying to treat you as badly as possible so that you dump him!!

    Coward!!

    Kiss that w@ster goodbye and get someone decent.
    You should only be with someone who makes you happy every single day. The day they don't is the day you dump them!!

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    • ccjigsaw
      12 years ago

      Noticing lately that joybirds comments aren't that joyful

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        I read through the past dozen or so to see if you were right - but no.

        I always advise people to dump the wasters who don't treat them right. Life's too short to put up with crap - and you only look back and regret being soooo stupid. Laugh every day, and make sure you are with people who make you laugh / feel good :o)

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  • HardCandyKiss87
    12 years ago

    Someone needs to kick your boyfriends ass for one. He just seems like a spoiled brat and doesnt know how to appreciate a good woman. I do alot of nice things for my husband only the difference is he returns the favor..we do things for eachother out of love. Leave the bastard....he wont know what he had til its gone

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago

    Don't understand him? I think i do and i don't even know him. He's quite simply a dick. He feels a sense of entitlement and superiority that he uses to rationilize and justify his behavior towards you. You can continue to be a human door mat or explain that you are due the same respect, understanding and support you show him. If he does not agree, try to set him up with his mom. Sounds like that's the type of figure he wants in a relationship.

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    You deserve better.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    Yes, it's normal to not understand someone who gets worked up over trivial things and doesn't appreciate being loved and care for.

    He sounds lame :/ do what you want but I would struggle to find a reason to stay with someone he treats me like that.

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  • ABitLost...
    12 years ago

    Thank you so much guys, i feel so great about my decision, it is clearly best to move on, i was afraid to be alone , or maybe its that I'm afraid to start over and not know what comes next. The truth is its best being alone then accompanied by the wrong person. THANKS SO MUCH !!!!!

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    No more nice girl! If you keep doing that he's never going to realize he's treating you badly. No matter howq stress free your trying to make hislife, he sounds stressed still, and he's takingit out on you. You need to sit down and talk to him. Girls do it to! We get all angry and hung up, and the 1st person and the one we see teh most often is our partner. So do yourselves both a favour and make sure he knows what he's doing.

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  • BluntsRolled
    12 years ago

    -He treats you like shit.
    -You stick around essentially because you wanna know "why"

    Sounds like the perfect way to keep a girl interested to me.

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    OP do you understand that 1+1 = 2?

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  • devilonyourshoulder1
    12 years ago

    He seems like an ungrateful, selfish, pain in the ass.

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    Fuckin hell have a little dignity and stop bending over backwards for this tit. Don't answer any calls from him, don't make any food for him, sleep whenever you want to sleep and don't drive him anywhere, then see how long it takes the stupid little twat to start appreciating everything you did for him.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    I wonder how much he would miss you if you was gone! Your way to nice to be treated this way, If you both go to couple counseling it could help, if not you should run as fast as you can from this situation, for it will on bring you more heart aches

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  • purpleattitude56
    12 years ago

    he sounds terrible! you shouldn't put up with this any longer...and after THREE YEARS? you would think he would respect you a teeny bit more

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    You have to answer him right away. You are in trouble if you wear makeup to work? If you don't make the food right you're in trouble?

    Sounds like he's your owner, not your boyfriend.

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    It is normal.. no woman fully understands any member of the opposite sex. (that one was just so stupid! I am doing it! I am fitting in!I can't believe it!)

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    He's treating you like his mother. Stop doing all these nice things for him and do things that make you happy. If he doesn't like it, then tough.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You're just stupid, thats all :)

    And now that you realize the situation your stupidity has landed you into, you want attention. Well, I'm not gonna give it you :P

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul
    12 years ago

    i think you should date a really nice guy and be mean to him.

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  • Jeshua
    12 years ago

    He's spoiled, I spoiled my ex put up with her shit then she left me for somebody else. Its inevitable spoiled ppl can't be pleased your not doing it for him he's gonna try to be pleased by another.

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