Is it normal that i dont think im a good mum?

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i have always wanted a farm with horses. not once has my dream been having a family. anyway i met my husband, fell madly in love and now we have a beautiful baby girl. she is so smart but the crying gets to me and makes me regret having her sometimes. at least a dozen times a day i look out the window at my horses and miss them terribly. a lot of the time i wish i was spending my time with my horses instead of our little girl. i know it sounds horrible and most people will probably say that i shouldnt have had a baby but i didnt know that i was going to feel this way. the older she is getting, the more time i want to spend with her so i am just hoping its just because she is a baby. i havent spoken to anyone about this, has anyone else felt this way after having a baby? its not depression either, i just would rather spend time with my horses than my daughter. is it normal to feel this way?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Is there a reason you cant spend time with both? Why don't you take her outside and show her the horses? Can't she give them some carrots or apples or whatever?

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  • wheelbreaks
    11 years ago

    Although you said that this "isn't depression", it sounds like postpartum depression to me.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I understand, I love my brother to pieces now that he is older and can communicate and act like a human being. When he was a baby I couldn't even be around him.

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  • KaffeInjection
    11 years ago

    So.... You sometimes think you regret having a baby because it keeps you from spending time with a bunch of freaking horsies?... Get a grip.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Your horses are part of your identity and having a child takes away from time with your houses, which might feel like your daughter is suppressing a part of your identity. It's normal, but don't let yourself resent your daughter because of it. Like dirtybirdy said, let your daughter become a part of your identity, rather than some sort of competing factor.

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