Is it normal that i dont like my boyfriend showing off his body online

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hye, my boyfriend love to take pictures of him shirtless and sometimes underwear and post it on instagram and facebook. i dont feel comfortable about him doing that and often we end up fighting. Is it normal for me to feel this way because i always wonder why does he need to seek approval and attention from others while i constantly compliment him on his looks. and just to help you guys to help me with this question, i am not ugly and i too have quite an amazing body,its just im not the kind of person who prefer to share my sexy pictures online for other to see. mostly because i dont want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings.

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JD777

9 years ago | pl

To post photos to show off your body shirtless or in underwear for the purpose of impressing people with your body is vain and lame. Doing it knowing it hurts your gf's feelings we add on mean and thoughtless. You can expect him to disrespect your feelings in other ways in the future.

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- max_rg
  
  9 years ago
  
  that is exactly what ive been trying to say to him. and he said i am being selfish,insecure and negative thinking. i said to him im nothing like those things. its just a natural feelings that i had. i dont even mind if someone else post their shirtless pictures because i do not care for that person, but somhow he manage to make me feel m the one with prombles. sad.~sigh~
  
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  - JD777
    
    9 years ago
    
    Bummer. There are lot's of considerate guys out there. You might be happier with someone who respects your feelings.
    
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    - max_rg
      
      9 years ago
      
      thanks dear, i needed that kind of comforting thoughts. because he really really make me feel terrible about myself that im not good enough for him.
      
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      - JD777
        
        9 years ago
        
        You're welcome. And I'm thinking he's not good enough for you.
        
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        max_rg
        
        9 years ago
        
        i dont know what to feel right now. because this has been goin on for years now. the only thing that make me stil holding on to him is love.
        
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Cuntsiclestick

9 years ago | pl

Yep. It's normal that you don't like your boyfriend acting like an attention hungry camera whore.

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- chained_rage
  
  9 years ago
  
  *stands next to you awkwardly*
  
  *side-eyes a little bit*
  
  *takes my phone out of my pocket*
  
  *takes a fabulous selfie... us-sie..*
  
  *skips off into the distance*
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    9 years ago
    
    Eh?!
    *looks into the distance, confused*
    What just happened?
    
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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

I certainly would be uncomfortable if my wife did that. It is her body and all, but still. It might make me feel quite insecure; almost like she was advertising for a new man.
No matter how hard some guy works to have an excellent body, I find it creepy how much they admire themselves. Most of us begrudgingly use mirrors because we must, but that other sort of person seeks them out, constantly.
I've been told by lady friends that most body builders or especially 'pretty' boys are really terrible lovers because they are more into themselves than their partner.

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- max_rg
  
  9 years ago
  
  "most body builders or especially 'pretty' boys are really terrible lovers because they are more into themselves than their partner." this is such a great point! i never tot of it this way. they are more into themselves...no wonder im always hurt by him ,because he simple doesnt care what i feel as long as he feels good about himself. n still he called me selfish???
  
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  - theseeker
    
    9 years ago
    
    I see nothing wrong with being in shape and having a fit body. Although, it does seem to be true body builder types tend to be self-obsessed. The same is true for women who are constantly focused on their appearance. You will come to realize it's more important what's on the inside, the heart, the soul, the life, the passion!
    
    It's very hypocritical of him to call you selfish. Sounds to me like he should practice what he preaches. If he's doing this while knowing that you are upset by it, yet keeps doing it, he obviously has no consideration for your feelings.
    
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    I'm glad you are starting to see that you can do better. Even if it is his body to do with as he pleases, yours is equally capable of chucking him out or packing your shit and 'movin on up..."
    In a good relationship there is mutual respect, and I just do not see his respect for you in his actions.
    
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- Holzman_67
  
  9 years ago
  
  Haha it's true I've been told the same thing by lady friends of mine. One guy my friend slept with was admiring his arm muscles as they had sex in a missionary position.
  makes you wonder if perhaps they are getting arousal from themselves?
  
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Holzman_67

9 years ago

your boyfriend's an exhibitionist. He needs validation from others in response to his hard work obtaining and maintaining his body. He likes to show off.

Your feelings are normal and I sympathise with you.

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VinnyB

9 years ago

I would prefer if he keeps doing it. After all, the majority of people that will enjoy his pictures will be gays guys like myself. I wonder if he realizes that.

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harddrystickysocks

9 years ago

I am sorry but I just can't even right now. I just cannot even.

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- Shrunk
  
  9 years ago
  
  Hye! (That's pretty much where I gave up)
  
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something2072

8 years ago

Its funny
When a girl does this and the boy tries to stop his girlfriend from doing so. Its somehow being possessive and wrong. Makes no sense tbh

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

Your boyfriend sounds like a douchey tool.

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regisphilbin

9 years ago

maybe hes not doing it for attention idk

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- max_rg
  
  9 years ago
  
  for what then.i have no idea
  
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