Is it normal that i dont know how to reject women?

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I am a heterosexual 25 year old man. I am not very sexual, I have only had sex a few times in my life and always with my girlfriends. I don't seek sex all the time and I honestly don't get why other guys are so sexual.

The thing is that... many girls have liked me or fell in love with me in the past. I don't know how to reject girls the right way, and when I do, I feel very guilty and embarrassed afterwards.

I usually tell them that I am just not interested, but then they get "offended", as if it was a guys duty to acccept them. Also, they end up asking me if I am gay after I reject them, which only humilliates me even further.

Well, I just want to know if anyone has gone through this.

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  • starie
    10 years ago | pl

    First of all, those "gay" comments shouldn't affect you. You're not obligated to have sex with every woman that offers.

    Secondly, girls in general are sensative, especially when it comes to rejection. There is no clear way to reject someone without them bitching about it later.

    I think you're going about it the right way though, by simply saying you're not interested. Maybe if you add: "Thanx, i'm flattered but i'm not interested in anyone at the moment" ? That way they might feel like "oh, it's not me, it's him, fair enough..."

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    • Nephew7
      10 years ago

      I usually just ignore them or give obvious hints, if they ask if youre gay just laugh or something wtf, you have the upper hand rejecting them remember that u dont have to give them a reason or shit.

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      • starie
        10 years ago

        True. The only reason to "defend" yourself is if their comments actually get to you, which they shouldn't.

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    punch them in the face

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Normaly i would say ahem.

    I am very flattered that you are interested me in this way but i don't think of you like that at all you are a great girl/women but i'm just not looking for that kind of relationship from you i am sorry.

    Or something to that effect.

    I really hate the kind of people think they are gods gift like you must be gay if you rejected me fuck off you slag.

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  • Naughtyboy666
    10 years ago

    The reason its hard for you is that you have a kind heart and don't want any girl/lady to experience pain or rejection cause it hurts you to see them hurt. When you have a kind heart it attracts women even more cause they feel safe to share their heart with you!!

    In order to try to prevent this from happening often, try to spend as little time as possible one on one with the opposite sex. Stick to always being 3 of you, that way it makes it harder for the girl to show you her heart, that will also allow you to guard your heart.

    You will learn how to be more aware of this so you can help prevent it!

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  • masoknox
    10 years ago

    Ok, let me break this down.

    If you're rejecting SEX; just say you aren't that kind of person and see women as more than just a piece of meat. That way they will understand that you have morals and aren't just saying no because you think they're ugly.

    If you're rejecting a RELATIONSHIP; tell her you already have feelings for another woman and don't want to cause stress between the two. Or tell her simply that you have had bad relationship experiences in the past and don't want to hurt her, that way she sees you as a caring person who doesn't want to risk hurting her.

    Hope these helped :)!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      "Or tell her simply that you have had bad relationship experiences in the past and don't want to hurt her", I have used that phrase in the past... if anything... it will make a girl that already likes you to love you.

      Every girl's dream is to change a guy with issues or with bad experiences.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Damn triflin ass bitches be trippin'.

        Seriously, codependent females who want to "fix" people give the creeps.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    10 years ago

    tell them they're substandard and that they're only good enuf to give you head.

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  • DudeYouAreMessedUp
    10 years ago

    You know what the first word I thought is when I saw the post title? "Don't."

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  • Ibelievethis
    10 years ago

    I'm the same I've never rejected anyone. I don't feel I have the right to either as it takes a lot of courage to tell someone how they feel. Plus there is no way I'd pass up the chance of sex. xx

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Life is so unfair. Why is it always the asexuals and gays that get lots of unwanted female attraction while sex addicts get none?

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  • mrloverlover
    10 years ago

    Stop rejecting pussy u fucken homo.

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    • masoknox
      10 years ago

      There's nothing homo about that. I've turned pussy down many a time because I either don't want to do that with said person, or have feelings for a different girl. I see OP as much better than you are as a person at this point, so shoot yourself in the foot some more.

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  • Geneva5
    10 years ago

    Have you tried an ice cream enema ? I suggest about 12 liters in your case ( any flavor will do) . Maybe do a web cast. This should cure your gayism if not I would consult a registered psychic.

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  • KaffeInjection
    10 years ago

    Do you jerk off alot?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      This is one of the stupid phrases I get frequently as well

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      • KaffeInjection
        10 years ago

        Hows beating the sausage going?

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  • 777electric
    10 years ago

    ^
    How'd you escape the insane asylum?

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Surf em and turf em. If you have the opportunity to have sex with a girl then do it fag.

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    • peterrabbyt2
      10 years ago

      You sound a bit light in the loafers yourself there!

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