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Im respectful most of the time and i try to obey them as much as i can.
But i don't have close bonds with either of them. I don't feel for them, i can't understand their pains etc. at times.
IIN?
Yes, it's normal. I am from a large family that just had a bunch if kids but never took the time to establish a bond. It's kind of sad, but it happens all the time. As the years go by it gets easier to deal with. I think acceptance of the situation is the first step, then strike out on your own. Find a passion for something, become a leader and do things better than what you were dealt.
Normal. My mother is not really an affectionate person, I guess because she is socially awkward, and the relationship we have can be likened to friends or roommates. I apparently loved my father when he was alive and we were close even though he spent a lot of time on the road. He died when I was young so, I couldn't have that close bond for long and even now I don't feel any closeness really.
I am an adult and I still feel no closeness to my parents. I hardly talk to them, although they live nearby. I just sent them an email about my job this weekend, and they turned it on me, claiming I took all the credit for building two houses when my note actually used the word "we" 40 times.
I read their note and my note to my boyfriend and sister, and they were shocked also.
I don't know why families have to say things that cause division and prevent bonding. I know I have supported my parents, taking them to the doctor and helping them understand what the doctor was saying and keeping them on track. I feel like I'm a good daughter, but they are clueless about nurturing. I have no feelings of love for them at all because they are cold and heartless.
So you are not alone.
Each family is different. If you feel okay living in your family and that you view the fact that you don't feel close to your parents as normal then you should not question it.