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i mean ive just never been good at making friends and i dont have any. i want friends and im acquaintances with some people at school but i dont see them outside of the environment. i have some family friends but i dont know if you could count those because i dont see them often. i just dont know what to do
For most of my life I didn't have any friends except my wife. During a 5 year period in elementary and high school I had 3 friends that I hung out with and did things with, but only one at a time. Over the years I've had a couple of coworkers (2, actually) that I became friends and hung out with. Maybe I'm too independent or self reliant. For sure most of my life I was a loner and didn't cultivate friendships. I have many acquaintances from work and business that I get along well with and feel friendly around them, but they're just that, acquaintances.
I would say it's probably normal to be like you, or I, but it's not good for us. To have friends one needs to BE a friend, and unfortunately I don't usually look at other people that way, like thinking to myself "what can I do for him/her, what do they need"? But, that's what friends do!
Really, a lot of people have different psychs and different preferences. Some people are comfortable with 50 friends, others with 3, some prefer 0.
Do you WANT friends? Are you lonely? Are the people around you interesting? If you are lonely then just find some people to talk to. People will 99 out of 100 times be nice to you if you just come up to them and talk to them. Don't wait for someone to approach you or to invite you over because they won't. (If you won't do it, who will?) And another thing, avoid making friends that you don't enjoy talking to, they just become a burden.
If you aren't really lonely or don't find the people around you interesting then that's ok too. I, personally am ok with being alone. The only reason I would make friends is if I enjoy talking to them, not because I have no one to talk too. In other words I don't rely on friends. On the other hand some people (most people) NEED friends. Some need 500 friends and others only need one, it really depends on the person. You don't have an obligation to make friends or remain friends with a person, you have an obligation to be comfortable, find your comfort zone.
Yer I've only got a couple, but I am a sociopath kinda, maybe, don't know, so that might be understandable...maybe