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my boyfreind's very atrractive . he even models , so his bodies not at all repulsive . he even has the whole surfer boy flip going on with his hair . everything about him is immpeccable ! but i dont get turned on by him . i get turned on by other guys . a little help . is this okay ? am i normal ?
Youre dating a guy you aren't attracted to because he embodies the standard beauty archtype. Basically you're doing it for status and because you think you should, not because you want to. Date someone you are attracted to.
so why the fuck you decided this guys is gonna be your boyfriend if he didnt turn you on? stupid ppl all over.
not your cup of tea then, find a guy you like in both physical and mental realms... lol sound like a dork typing "realms" :P
-Crazy
Um, maybe u might be jealous bc u don't have the "surfer girl" look, hmmm... I'll pray for u
Why in Hell is he your bf if he don't turn you on..Sounds a bit kooky to me.
personally i think your an ass....like with all due respect. If your not attracted to him, move along because it can only cause the poor guy pain! SHAME ON YOU...if this was the case with my girl I would be LIVID!
It means....u like dicks and not pits!!! hahahahaha
go have sex...and you'll get turned on everyday..
In all the comments I read, not one mentioned the word: LOVE.
"Sexually attracted"... If there is only the sex side in a relationship, it's bound to flop at any time.
yes. it means you are not sexually attracted to him. for instance, my partner of 10 years is someone I am sexually attracted to. he is not a model and does not look like one. i can look at models and actors and while i know the whole world including myself sees that person as physically attractive, that person does not turn me on. if it took a model to turn on every woman, there would be A LOT of lonely single men.
it goes like this:
a lover or boyfriend (whatever you want to call it) has got to be a:
1) friend
2) sexually attractive to you
the difference between a friendship and a relationship is only 1 thing: sexual attraction
now if this guy is your friend, it sounds like he is just that and only that. and that is ok. on the other hand, if you are saying that this guy is physically hot to you but you just are syncing up w/ him, then i would ask you if you guys are really friends at all in the first place. do you have anything to talk about or is there nothing there?
most likely, this guy is your friend & you just don't have the chemistry w/ him that makes him sexually attractive to you.
here is another example:
ashton kutcher & demi moore-- they are both physically attractive and between them they are friends and sexually attracted therefore they are each others lovers
but imagine that in hollywood, ashton probably knows females who are also physically attractive and some of those are also going to be his friends, but he is not sexually attracted to them, so they can be his friends who are physically attractive but he is not going to make love w/ them.
hope this helps
You should reflect upon the things that got you interested in a relationship with him in the first place. Has he changed these things about himself? Do you feel that those things you liked initially are still as important to you as they once were? Sexual attraction, while important may come and go as other factors begin to affect the relationship, so first try to determine why you are not(no longer) attracted to him before you proceed. The comments below do have a point, even though they are a bit callous in the way they express it; you may need to consider at least discussing this lack of attraction with him, and this may indeed lead to the relationship ending.
best of luck!
I think the question is is it normal to date someone you don't get turned on by and the answer is no
Good advice JENN! you are so right if there is no chemistry then dump him
I don't know about you, but I'm not attracted to guys that try to be attractive. The little "surfer boy flip" would totally ruin it for me. I like guys that have natural confidence and a certain magnetism to them without even trying. Maybe that's what your problem is! If you're not attracted to him, break up with him.
Sounds like your losing interest. If so break up with him before you end up cheating and if he does not make you happy any more time to look for a new person. But if he tries hard to make you happy bare with him,humor him. Who knows you might find spark back between each other,witch I hope you do. I hate to see people do that.
yes ! it is . when i was dating my ex i would be the same way i would always get turnd on by other guys (mostly older ones)instead of him. but for me it was just knowing that i couldnt have the other guy that kinda turned me on . lol.
Poor guy just dump him if ur not attracted to him anymore get a guy who you do find attractive i can give you some numbers nice guys not scally wags/rap scallions decent blokes with big willys we work out so i seen them i aint a gay lol mail back matty85 cat with the cream xx wink wink xx