Is it normal that i dont get him off, but a dildo up his butt will???

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My Hubby is obsessed w/ anal sex. He wants me to let him use my backdoor, but I'm not n2 it. I just found out that he was raped as a child. We have Bn together 5 yrs. We had normal sex for the first year & everything seemed to work properly...but since he was so fixated on anal sex w/ me, I told him I would do it only if he took it himself. Well, he did, much to my surprise, I wasn't actually serious. Now, I can't get him off, only anal penetration works for him. I feel like I'm doin something wrong or...??? He says he is in no way gay...but I've never Bn w/ a guy who had this problem.

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  • babygirl01
    13 years ago

    He does treat me right, but it sickens me that he enjoys that more than "normal" sex. I feel useless to him. We go normal & I have no problem getting mine coz obviously, I'm very attracted to him & I do love him, but I want him to want me instead of a toy. I don't wanna wind up cheating to feel wanted, but I have to admit, I'm entertaining the idea.

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      Maybe he is gay and just doesnt want to tell you. Maybe he has been in denial for a long time and this just kind of made it become clear. He probobly does love you as a person but it sounds like sexually he is into men.

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  • loveteenfeet
    11 years ago

    the guy is gay, its not normal or natural for anyone to be fucked in their ass.

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  • babygirl01
    13 years ago

    How does it make HER feel??

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  • KodaaLynn
    13 years ago

    Oh my God!
    My best friends boyfriend is EXACTLY like this.
    He can't even get it up unless she fingers him, or fucks, him in the ass with a little purple dildo.
    So, you are not alone.

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  • babygirl01
    13 years ago

    When I said we go normal, I meant until I get mine, then he wants me to get him off the other way. I have Bn balling my eyes out over this. For the first year of our relationship, I had no idea that he was into that & he says I'm the only one he has ever told his secret about being raped. He says that's probably why he likes it so much & he says he loves me & loves that I have fulfilled all his fantasies...but I told him how it makes me feel. At first, I didn't mind, coz it wasn't an everyday thing, but now its the only way that works for him, but its tearing me up inside.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago

    Considering his past, he unconsciously wanted this. But you surprisingly rushed it on accident. His benefit.

    But if he treats you right and still adores you. Don't give that up jus cause he has a little odd preference.

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  • darren3
    13 years ago

    His problem is he was anally raped as a child and his wiring is all F'd up now.

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