Is it normal that i dont find my boyfriend attractive?

When you say you find women more attractive, do you mean in an aesthetic sense or in a sexual sense?

Sometimes it's not always about looks, some people pefer pesonality over everything! When I first started dating my bf I thought he was hidious! I couldn't even look at his face, but I liked him because of his body and amazing personality! But now I think he's the most handsome guy in the world and we've been together for a couple years now... so everything worked out for the better! I guess he grew on me =D LOL!

Im not sure how normal it is, but you like him for his personality and who he is as a person, so as long as you truely love him and care for him, I think it should be ok(:

i think love and sex are two different things. you can love someone dearly but have no sexual desires for them. but a healthy relationship should include sex and attraction so try to find things about him to make him attractive to you...doesn't have to be looks!

It takes a lot for a relationship to work and attraction is a main part. I know oh too well about this from a certain experience. I dated a guy for three years that I was never attracted to and everyone always asked me why because in their eyes we weren't the ideal couple but it didn't matter because I loved who he was and for a while I was satisfied with that, because for me love is more than just looks. If u love him and want to make it work i suggest that you attract yourself to the things that you do love about him and if that's not enough for you I suggest that you only do whats fair and let him go because everyone wants to feel wanted and attractive to their spouse.

He must be ugly with a big dick that makes you cum. He's probably fuckable but don't get accidentally pregnant

Im confused about a couple of these comments and the post. I think its extremely important to find your partner sexually attractive. (I would understand if you are both 40+ that'd be hard for anyone hahah)
Maybe I just need to get laid really bad.
That's probably it.
Damn... I'm shallow aren't I..

honestly, i find it completly normal, i been with my boyfriend for 4 in a half years and i love him more than anything. in thoes years, i found myself finding that he's not all that attractive at times, although he is. toatlly. but the point is, i thought nothing of his appearance and only on what really mattered, like how he treats me. (with respect and all that) theres nothing more than feeling the love of someone that your inlove with, as long as you love him than it's all good.

I can see what you're saying and I can agree with most of it. The point I'm trying to make is that he's saying that he's finding women more sexually appealing than his boyfriend and he wants advice on that.

What I'm trying to say is that some of the feedback he's getting is telling him to focus on the parts of the relationship that are working. I see that as being similar to going to the doctor and saying, "Doctor, my hand hurts," and having the doctor tell you not to worry about it because the rest of you is fine.

I know sexual attraction is only one aspect of a relationship between two people, but for me (and my husband), it's a fairly important aspect of the relationship. I honestly wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I had no sexual attraction for him and I wouldn't want him to continue to be in a relationship with me if he had no sexual attraction toward me.

At the point in the relationship where you realize you don't have a sexual attraction any more, a number of other problems can come up, but my post is long enough already.

Yeah, but sexual attraction is an important part of a relationship where sex is involved and that's the part he's focusing on. I think it would be more helpful to look at why he doesn't have an attraction than it is to try to look at the other things in the relationship.

Why would you date someone you don't have a sexual attraction to? If that's the case, you're better off as friends.

i dont think it makes u a bad bf to find others attractive in any relationship. sometimes when my bf does stupid shit i dont find him attractive at all and sometimes i want to have sex with him in public because i like the way he chews his gum or something.point being that attrction wavers but a good man is something to cherish. i feel like ur just at a different point in ur life where ur loking at others and ur man in a different light. take some time and focus on urself DONT BREAK UP because u said urself u love him. u just need to refocus(:

Im in the same situation now. I have been with my woman now.for 5 years. I love her dearly. Would be so lost without her. She is my.soul mate but I dont her sexually attractiv e. All I want to do is meet up with a man and end with a bang but always go home to my baby. She really is the one fore.but I just need sex from a man!