Is it normal that i dont feel i'm to blame for a kid's issues??

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I have worked at an after-school program for four years. There are 30 kids in this group, so have had to deal with a lot of crap- from both kids and parents. Recently, I had the worst confrontation with a parent I have ever experienced.This woman confronted me and accused me of singling out her son for his behavior. She then went on to tell me that her son was so upset about my treatment of him that she took him to talk to a therapist. Now, mind you I have worked with this kid for four years without a problem like this and only see him two days a week for 2 hours a day. He has always had problems in school and constantly displays negative attention-getting behaviors, which I actually try to ignore. This is also the same kid who told all the boys in the program that my co-worker hates boys, which upset some other parents when they heard that. Can some parents chime in here and tell me how to deal with this delusional mother?

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  • Girl-vrs-Problem
    12 years ago

    I say film for an hour and see how many are being a problem. if her kid calls out a lot she could visual see him mucking about. or you know i guess you could tell her what kid? oh him, His mentors on break I don't look after that kid.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Bad kids come from bad parents.

    You will never win that battle, so try to find a solution that doesn't create more drama than what has already happened.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    I want to comment on this but I would probably side too much with the child since I was abused and neglected by organizations like this when I was young. So my opinion is too weighted to give a fair and appropriate response.

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  • dignanluvr
    14 years ago

    Wow, sounds like the kid just has issues and the parent has issues and the parent is taking it out on you. I agree, the kid needs to be in another group. That will never be fixed.

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  • SweetAdeline
    14 years ago

    If you have any say-so in what kids you work with, you should request that the kid be removed from your care. The mother isn't going to change. Like you said, she is delusional and I don't think there is a cure for delusiona.

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