Is it normal that i dont feel anything when i kiss "the one"?

Sorry he ain't
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is there an update? ik this was so long ago but i’m in the same boat. i think i’m in love with my best friend but when we kiss (we aren’t together so we’ve barely kissed) i feel nothing, but when she’s doing something like rubbing her hands up and down my back before we kiss i get butterflies. with all my past relationships it’s been the same, i feel jack shit when kissing.

I feel literally the exact same way. I am 17 and I also know my boyfriend is the man I am going to marry (to all those people who say we are crazy, you just have probably never met your person and have no idea what it feels like so back off). When we kiss or even have sex, it feels like nothing, I dont feel the butterflies, or the zing, nothing. And as for sex, its like its pleasurable but also not, and I never get THERE. It really sucks feeling like this and I am a big overthinker so that only makes it worse. The best we can do is to just try to stop thinking about it and actually live in the moment and eventually the feeling hopefully will come back.

Honestly, people who are basing their 'One' upon kissing are all idiots. Yes, physical attraction is one thing but it shouldn't dominate your relationship. If you've never ever wanted to kiss your bf even at the beginning - that's a different story. But after a couple months, years, the pink honeymoon time will be over, nd love becomes a different type of thing, based on commttment, trust and deeper understanding, and that's why a lot of people break up, thinking they don't love their partners.

Just relax, don't force yourself to 'like' the kissing, focus on the other parts of your relationship and it will come naturally. Redifine your definition of attraction to something deeper than a feeling you get when you're relationship is young and you will realize the feeling will come back on its own. Only you truly and deeply know in your heart if he's the One. :)

He's definately not the one. Sorry honey, but there it is. You're young anyway, you probably won't find the guy you'll settle down with til your 20s or 30s

so he is definately the right one? the one and only??

wow you must be like still 16 in your head =)

gl getting divorced in 10 years

how is the sex?

I'm happily married and I just plain don't enjoy kissing much at all. Lots of people don't like making out, or making out often anyway. Kissing can seem like a "have to" and not necessarily a "want to", everybody gets all hyped up for their first kiss and relationships usually evolve physically beginning with making out-it's kind of foced on us and we're told we're supposed to like it. Maybe you're just trying to make yourself like kissing when deep down you don't really enjoy it? Or maybe sometimes kissing feels "forced" or cliche at the moment. Try kissing less often or only when you truly feel like doing it.

Have you ever felt that shiver? Some women, sadly, never shiver. You could try spicing it up a bit, role playing, dirty talk, toys, etc. And see what happens. Please don't get defensive, you are young. I think you may never feel that zing or your boyfriend isn't "the one." Of course you love each other, I'm sure you have much to teach other.

Perhaps you could also try having a break, spend a few days at a friend's and don't see him. Maybe this will spark interest enough that your kiss upon seeing him again will 'spark.' It could just be that the 3years have worn-down the magic.
Try new kisses, don't kiss all the time, and don't think about your body's reactions: unfortunately, when things happen like we're kissed, our body will almost always start preparing itself for sex, we're still very animalistic.

He's not the one.. A 'nice, great guy' isn't the description of 'the one.'
He's obviously someone you're very attracted to, and certainly love. Maybe you need more time, as he does love you and can perhaps pull you around.
You should like kissing 'the one' though, even people who don't like kissing much have a slim exception for their partner.

My girlfriend is insanely hot. I don't know anyone that wouldn't snap her up in a heart beat. Although when I kiss her I feel nothing, when we sleep together, again nothing.

I don't think it's normal but feeling nothing there.. Not even really a sign of attraction is strange.

Yeah.... But as long as it makes I wet I mean porn might make me wet if i were a girl but doest mean its ya know " the porn"

U r a dip shit ur 18 and u think he's the one u arrogant little..... Girl ur not close to a woman the way u talk

Try eating more healthy food or read a novel/song/poem that makes you feel romantic.