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I dont believe in them and think its false. Ive been through alot and im sick of it. Their never mr right. So im going to give up.
Yea, what DannyKanes said! :P
Seriously though I'm sure you're still young. And before you meet your "Mr. Right" they'll be lots of "Mr. Wrongs". Don't expect a perfect relationship because they do not exsist. Everyone works on their relationship and trys to make it as perfect as possible.
mr and mrs right weren't mrs and mr right before thinking about ways to become mr right to their mrs right and mrs right to mr right. It is all about policy. All about "setting yourself up". There is no such thing as a couple meant to be perfect. It is either you accept all of the things not making your mr right right enough and live with these things as if they are an inextricable part of him/her, in other words accepting the fact that everyone has defects, or you simply go through changes, most of them slow, ultimately leading to a certain degree of harmony. The concept of "perfect match" is an illusion. Nobody is the "perfect match" for anybody. Relationships have to be Nurtured, like babies, you have to work on them to make them work. It is not like you are going to magically get into the perfect relationship overnight. You have to "tune yourselves".Grow dependent on each other, otherwise it just cannot work. What holds most "perfect couples" together is the fact they can't do without each other. That is why every couple starts working on the relationship by doing things for each other. Then after a while: he wouldn't get clean underware if she walked out on him, she wouldn't get whatever she get's in return for doing everything she does for him, so they stick together.
That's the only sane type of relationship. Everything else tends to be, well, not that functional.
You should start by making a list of all the things you want from a guy. Or from a girl if you are a male. So you can figure out whether your expectations are realistic, reasonable, or you are just expecting too much. That way you won't have to try and try and try, over and over again to end up having to accept unwanted conditions. Of course that would take all the fun out of the dating game. Which is most about leading up to sex. Then figuring out whether you are compatible for a long lasting relationship or not afterwards.
Long entry again, well, hope it helped.
I hear you. Try dating like I do. Instead of making it official, I go out with guys and get to know them first before I decide to be in a legit relationship. Despite that I might take my advice too seriously because I take relationships seriously and not like a month or two thing, I think its helpful advice because if youre not sure about him for any reason you just stop seeing him as a opposed to BREAKING UP which can be a bigger deal and hurt more. Don't rush into things, take your time and don't put your heart at risk too fast, thats why the mind is there for some input, SOME INPUT (its bad to over analyze)
Do what you want and we'll do what we want. I don't know why everybody is so keen to keep you optimistic about relationships. If you ever meet that Mr. Right, it'll just happen anyway (you'll want to stay with him, he'll want to stay with you, so it'll inevitably be a relationship). If you never meet that Mr. Right or if there isn't one to meet, then at least you haven't been holding on endlessly hoping for him only to be bitterly disappointed - then die.
In my opinion there are lots of people out there I could conceivably be happy in a relationship with. But most relationships have a life-span shorter than your literal life-span - few people stay in love for as long as they live. Just follow your head and heart in equal measure and you'll be alright.
You just haven't met the right guy yet. Try looking for love in a place you wouldn't normally look.