Is it normal that i don't want to spend time with my dad

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It's just...I don't like spending time with my dad.
My parent separated (and almost divorced) like four years ago... And well, My dad is in the Navy , So he currently lives in a different state. So, Me and My brother live with my mom.My dad comes to visit whenever he can get leave, and I dread him coming sometimes.He is just so strict, and non-accepting. I feel like i'm always walking on eggshells when i'm around him, just so I can avoid an argument or a disagreement.
Also, He has no compassion. Like, If i were to be upset or depressed about something, then he just tries to convince me that being sad about whatever it is is useless, which doesn't really help.
He feels like everything that costs money unless you absolutely need it is a waste too...
I don't hate my dad, I still respect and care for him as my father, i just simply have a hard time when i'm around him...
Is it normal? Or am I just a terrible person..?

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    He sounds like a hard man.
    His way of showing love to you is by being the authority figure, or basically your Dad. I wish that he could see your post here and make changes to be more loving around you.

    Also, since your parents broke up it is possible that your personality sways more on your Mom's side; and I'm thinking Mom is happy not to be with him.
    I wonder if you have your Dad's looks, but Mom's personality.

    Write him a letter and say, Hi Dad, just wanted to tell you I love you, hope we can spend time together one sunny day.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Sounds like a dick

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    You just don't have a lot in common, you still care about him though and that's what matters. Maybe there's something you two could do that doesn't involve disagreements? A neutral ground.

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  • oneawesomechick
    11 years ago

    I'm often not fond of spending time with my dad since my parents divorced and my friend who lives with her dad says she dreads seeing her mum sometimes, so I guess maybe its just dreading seeing the parent you don't live with who you don't see almost every day :)

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