Is it normal that i don't want to have kids because i'm ugly?

SHUT UP, MEG

I actually think about this all the time. I think I agree sadly enough.

It's normal, but sad. I undertsand that you wouldn't want any kids you have to be made to feel bad about themselves growing up, but that's no reason not to have kids if you really want them. You could teach them that beauty is more than physical, give them love and a good childhood. You shouldn't let others define your self-image. You are giving in to that same superficiality you rail against.

Why do you think your ugly? have people told you this and dragged you down? Im 28 now and when I was at school I was always being told I was ugly and I left thinking I would never meet anyone and never have kids. I have a big nose and i focused on this all the time, when I looked in the mirror thats all I could see. I also used to think If I had kids would they end up looking like me and having the mick taken out of them but Ive since met a man and we have been married nearly 4 years. We have 2 kids. Im their mum so I know I can't think any bad of them anyway but they have turned out to be good looking, they both have big cute eyes and my baby has blue eyes and blonde hair where as I have very dark brown hair and brown eyes.

Jesus. What has the world come to that you can't have a kid just because you think others won't find it beautiful.

It doen't matter what you look like as long as you give a nice long blowjob and swallow the cum.

that's stupid.
Search for this woman, Maria Ozawa.
Mixed German Japanese and turned out to be a beautiful nice mix!

So it doesn't matter how beautiful you are or ugly. Your child's appearance can be determined by God.

I mean you may be beautiful, who knows your child may just turn out to be disabled (no offense). Just like Katie Price (Jordan), with that beauty, her third child turned out to be disabled.

And I've seen lots of nice looking girls whose mom doesn't compare to her.
Kids will only resemble your face depending on the DNA.

Nope it isn't ... listen to yourself and wonder why the world is too shallow? .. God's creation is never ugly and if you find yourself ugly.. Then, I'm sorry you don't appreciate what you have. Others can't see, hear or move. And you're talking about not have attractive facial features?

I can relate. I'm ugly too, that's just one more reason for me not to have children.

I really wish more people thought this way. The world would be an immensely happier, healthier place without parents who selfishly have children despite not having the means, patience, skill, or genetics to have a healthy child. By genetics I'm referring mainly to parents who have certain genetic diseases they know they'll pass on to their children, but they have them anyway. Also parents who keep trying to have children despite having multiple miscarriages or stillbirths. Do you think your baby is going to grow up healthy? No. For the most part, you are further diluting the already weak gene pool, and humans are getting more and more dependant on healthcare....I would honestly love to see what would happen to a would without modern day medicine. How many people would survive. And if that includes myself I'd gladly take that.

Im just like you and think almost the same way exept i planned to use sperm donathion in the future from someone whos attractive in 100% but still wasnt sure ill do that because of the living with no father issue maybe wrose than look ugly in shallow world. I used to ran away from serious realeathionships and searched only to enjoy my young years as much as i can. and today im with a serious boyfriend for couple years now that i love and cant stop loving and just leave i told him that only if we will use egg donation we will have children together in the future because he's in 100% want his own kids. He allways tell me how beautiful i am to him and that he want to have kids who will look like me but if that's the case he accept the term. Although i think thats shallow and stupid i feel relief to know that my kids with ofcours all the love and support ill be able to give will have the chance also to love themselves out and in naturally and have less traumatic experiences relating to who they are naturally.

You know attractiveness has a lot more to do with nutrition and healthy living, especially nutrition during pregnancy and such. Check out the Weston A. Price foundation. You can have healthy, attractive children!

http://www.westonaprice.org/

Come on... YOU said this :"And don't tell me to find a good looking dad cause 1) that doesn't guarantee good looking children "

You're able to say that a good looking dad doesn't guarantee to have good looking child? But you're afraid your 'uglyness'(wish is to be prooved ) guarantee an ungly child?

What should poeple considered as ' good looking ' say? We're not ugly so our child is gonna be great? Or do they have to say that doesn't guarantee ..??

I don't know if it makes sens, but nothing about beauty is ' guaranteed ' ,... I don't think that not having children should involve their hypothetic beauty. It's about love and that's all.

(sorry for my english, I speak french ^^ )

Meg....who let you back in the house?

You should try to get some help on boosting your self confidence. Even if you are "ugly" and people made fun of you... Who cares what they think? I'd say screw everyone else and of you raise your kids to be strong so that bullshit won't effect them.

Have kids with a guy whod not so good looking either 2ugly ppl= hot baby XD question are yur relatives ugly?? Mom dad cuz maybe you jus got fucked with the shit jeans doesnt mean yur kids will

dont worry, youll probly never find anyone who wants to have kids with you anyway, if your really that ugly which you probly arnt. for f..k sake, make and effort and be happy and youll look good. besides you could just adopt.

Ugly people have beautiful babies. Beautiful people have ugly babies. You're in the clear lol!

it sucks that you feel that way but its normal..just because you are unattractive, doesnt mean your child will be. i have a beautiful friend, whos parents have to be the ugliest people ive ever seen, and a not so cute friend whos parents are both good looking...you cant help what your child will look like...but you can help with what your child feels, its mostly about the persons confidence thats attractive.

There may be many legitimate reasons for not wanting to have children - but this is not one. Instead you use the issue to assault, abuse and smear yourself as unworthy of children because you are "ugly."

Probably you have internalized abuse received from others. But even so, you are the one over generalizing and rolling in it, & just shitting on yourself.

The issue isn't having children - it is how you think of yourself. Do get help on that - really - you could turn your life around and make choices that suit or don't suit you for legit reasons.

I can understand you not wanting to put your kids through the same hurt that you have been through and it is a very unselfish way to think. Unfortunately if you don't have kids most people with automatically think you are a selfish person. Also at the moment you still have the choice to have kids. When you get to 40 and you haven't had them you will probably be desperate to have them and the pain of not having kids is considerable unless you are totally not into having them at all. ie not just because of the ugly factor. It also has to do with being a sensitive person. Some people are not the best lookers in the world but have the ability to be happy in their skin, others suffer incredibly and having low self-esteem and that can easily be passed on to your kids. If you have kids, I highly recommend that you get them into martial arts which teaches one self respect and makes it less likely that they will get bullied. You can start at a really young age. Personally I am not going to have kids not just because they could have my bad skin and big nose but because they could also inherit a lot of physical problems that seem to be in my families DNA as well as mental ones. I just don't see the point in putting another human being through all that suffering. However not having kids is in itself a difficult thing to go through... good luck with your decision and by the way of course all the people who say that it is what counts on the inside that matters are totally right, but being unusually ugly is not a pleasant experience for anyone...

I bet your kid would be gorgeous to you and thats all that really matters, if she/he goes through bullying it can always stop.