Is it normal that i don't want to go out clubbing anymore because...

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Is it normal to not want to go out clubbing anymore because all of my friends get hit on and never me. And I'm the only single one too.

I know it's lame and pathetic to not be that keen on going out with them anymore but it literally makes me feel like shit. Anyway, I told one of my friends and she got mad and said I was being pathetic.

I never complain about my looks, I never used to feel ugly and I'm not someone who fishes for compliments. I still get coffee with the girls and see them at uni so it's not like id be ending friendships or anything, but lately going out has just been demoralizing.

so I guess...Is it normal to not want to go out with a group of friends because all of them have guys interested in them and I'm always left with no one while they go off dancing and flirting...or is it abnormal, and I'm a massive complainer?

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    Going clubbing should be fun and a way to forget about your daily struggles. If for whatever reason it makes you feel bad or uncomfortable you should just stop going. If you do enjoy going out in general you just might want to change the group of friends you go out with to avoid it. It's as simple as that.

    I myself am in a relationship and I don't go out to get hit on or meet people but just to have fun, and I usually have a great time doing so.

    What I am trying to say is that it really doesn't need to be about getting attention from women, but if everyone around you feels differently just stop going out with them.

    Also, do you really think you will meet your dream-girl in some club? If not, then why even try.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    It's no fun going out when you don't have a partner and everybody else has. You should go out with a girl who is single like you. Yours friends don't understand or they are making as if they didn't

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  • Queenofdacastle
    11 years ago

    That's perfectly normal. Don't listen to your friend.

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  • queued
    11 years ago

    it's absolutely normal to feel that way. part of the human condition is to want to feel included. The abnormal thing is your friend getting mad at you for feeling excluded...

    Sounds like a bitch.

    Only thing I can offer for advice is that you need to try it a few more times, but this time be outgoing, lively, and positive, even if you feel down. If it works, you may see the entire experience in a new light. Do what feels (good and) natural from there

    Best of luck

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  • emi.l.y
    11 years ago

    Aww hunni :( just try too ignore it and have a good time? I don't like going out either because I am terrified of drunken people making comments about me :/ maybe suggest a night in with some drink? Or explain too yoor friends how yoo feel (: good luck x <3

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    If you never get hit on, of course it's going to knock your confidence a bit.
    I used to have the exact same problem when I first started going out. I never got attention. But I looked in the mirror, thought fuck it I am sexy, wore attention grabbing clothing and hit on the guys myself!
    You don't have to just stand there waiting for a guy to come on to you. It's 2012! If you see a guy that you are attracted to, approach him! If he rejects you, so what, there will be loads of other fit guys there.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I guess you have the right to complain and get sad but if you get home nobody is ever gonna hit on you there!
    If you go out, maybe out of 100 times, 99 nobody is gonna flirt with you, but someday something will happen for sure! whereas if youre home, the possibility for something to happen is 0%.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    charisma comes in all shapes and sizes , its all about the attitude, people are attracted to positivity, why cant you approach a lonely one, get out of your comfort zone a bit, if no luck smile and move to the next, why not?

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