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I was really fat and I decided to loose weight so that I didn't have health trouble in the future, and now way more men approach me but I don't want to get into a relationship because I'm afraid they wouldn't of even tried to get to know me if I were fat still. Is this normal?
yeah it can make you feel that guys who are approaching you now were never attracted to the real you, and yes that may seem superficial but that's part of the way the world is.
I dunno how normal it is to feel that way, but I think you're wise. Just take things slow, and beware of guys who don't ask you much about yourself or say much about themselves, but rather just do nothing but compliment you especially if they're really touchy feely. Look for companionship from someone you actually have things in common with. Also just to be safe don't let guys pic you up, but rather meet them for the date, drive your own car.
You can also ask them what they think of overweight people. You don't have to say that you used to be heavy, just listen to what he says, and if it's mean then you know he's not for you.
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You seem like such a man hater. You think every guy is an untrustworthy douche bag or something. I don't like it.
No I think I don't feel nice that people only approach me now. I have plenty of guy friends I just don't want to get hurt.
Better safe than sorry. It's a free country, so you don't have to like it.
In Rosie's defense, she's a creep like me. Her defensive predisposition is designed to filter out dangerous people that she might attract, or self-righteous people that find her irreverent humor offensive. Healthy creeps enjoy their own kind, but also respect each others similar vulnerabilities.
If that scares him off, then he wasn't the right guy, so just go for it a little.
Don't worry about a relationship, just go on a few dates and have some fun. Enjoy being who you are now.