Is it normal that i don't want to be sexy?

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I'm a woman, 28 years old and everywhere I look I'm told that I have to be sexy, feel sexy, look sexy, talk sexy, act sexy, etc all the time and that is what is normal and expected of me as a modern woman in America, but I don't want to be sexy except when I'm with my partner. I don't want go out of the house in revealing clothes and display my body parts to total strangers and have them judge me on that, I don't want men to flirt with me and I hate the idea of a strange man looking at my body and getting turned on, I am totally uncomfortable with it! I want sex and sexiness to be something special and intimate I share only with my partner. I'm a very private and shy person in general. I was raised in a non-religious home, so I'm not some crazy fundamentalist nut, either. Sometimes I think I'm the only woman in the world who feels this way. Is the way I feel normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You are an adult. You can dress yourself. You don't need Osh Kosh B'Gosh advice at this late date.

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  • drows
    13 years ago

    Normal. A guy here and I have friends with the same opinion. As long as you're not searching for a guy, do what's most comfortable.

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  • 5starbc
    13 years ago

    Damn if only you were ugly, then you would be bitching about not being noticed. Women are so fucked in the head...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You are normal, it's just society's "normals" are at an all-time low. Don't let that change your own morals though.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    Good on you mate

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  • frist
    11 years ago

    Is it normal? There's really no such thing as normal - it's just a concept meaning (amongst many things) in the middle. Is what you feel healthy and ok? Absolutely. I feel the same way. I'm not interested in being a walking sex ad. I want people to see me the person, not my body or my clothes. Good for you - wear what you feel comfortable in. The saddest thing about this whole issue is that younger and younger girls are being pushed into wearing these revealing clothes that the fashion industry and the media are "normalising". I'm no bigot but whether we like it or not dressing this way is not so much freedom of expression as making a statement about sexual availability. We need to take a stand against this stuff for their sakes.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Sounds exhausting.

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Yes sexy attracts speedballs immaturity

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  • jamydodo
    12 years ago

    no thats normal it jus means you respect your body you dont need to always be in the nude or make yourself look good for other guys.your comtable in your own skin

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    @ibeatmywife- WTF?? Loser.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    I can totally relate. Society is so sexualized these days. Good on u for sticking to your morals an not 'conforming'.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    You actually only add fuel to this stereotype by saying that you have to wear revealing clothes in order to be sexy. Newsflash...that's slutty not sexy. I love it when I look/feel sexy no matter where I go. Also...I can look sexy no matter the attire...throw me some socks and a toboggan and I'll rock your world haha!

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  • georgienne
    13 years ago

    I'm the same, im exclusively sexy for my boyfriend, no one else. I still love to dress up, but it's for me, not others. I really don't like looks and comments, but I learn to live.
    The way you feel is admirable, if only more women recognised that it's possible. We feel so pressured, as you mention, to reek sexy all day, for everyone.

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  • aocconfig
    12 years ago

    thats good because you are in a relationship and your focus is on your man, only whores and single women dress sexily all the time.

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  • imaaninja
    13 years ago

    Totally normal. I personally believe there should be more people out there with this sort of opinion. It's so terrible seeing people in tiny clothes, baring it for the entire world to see!

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  • iBeatMyWife
    13 years ago

    I don't respect most women but women need to be like you.

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