Is it normal that i don't want to be around my friend anymore?

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Cassie and I have known each other since we were five. We never hung out a lot, but we would have sleep-overs now and then when were little. About 2 1/2 years ago Cassie moved from Maryland to California. We were both 19. About a year later she moved back. She was 2 months pregnant and married. We got in touch and started hanging out a lot. She, her husband, my boyfriend and I all got along well and spend almost every weekend together. We all got pretty close.
A little while before Cassie gave birth (6 months ago) I stopped wanting to hang out with them. Their personalities began to irritate me. The husband is completely influenced by the media and acts like life is a sitcom. I don't know where he begins and the TV ends. Cassie is ... well she is Cassie. She is pushy about her beliefs and is always talking about how I should clean my house, what would make me more organized, how wrong my sister is in her parenting methods, and blah, blah, blah. I began to see them as everything I dislike about people.
Sometimes I think I just really wanted some new friends and saw past their personalities at first. Sometimes I think I don't like being around them because they have a child. I have never liked kids, and really the only kid I like is my niece.
They keep trying to make plans, and I keep coming up with excuses. I feel bad, but at the same time, I don't.
Am I just being a total bitch, or is it normal to not want to be around these people anymore?
I think what bothers me the most is that I don't REALLY know why I stopped liking them.

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago

    This is probably going to sound fucking retarded, but uh....I begin to dislike people via Facebook once they have kids because they all seem to become....really annoying and painfully boring. All they can talk about is being a parent, whether or not their kid slept last night, that they finally got a chance to vacuum while the kid was napping, and spam reposts about being a parent and OMG IF YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO MEANS THE WORLD TO YOU PUT THIS AS YOUR STATUS!!!111 Jeeeeeeesus Christ, I can't imagine actually hanging out with these people.

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  • blndgrl18
    13 years ago

    ughhhhh, i feel the pain. i have a friend who think she knows exactly what is best for me. she is always criticizing me and telling me how to do things. of course, she always follows the negative comments with things like "i only say this cause youre my friend". well, guess what bitch, i have a mother, and she doesn't even tell me what to do. i let the friendship go. i felt bad, but you can't put yourself around people who do not make you happy. do what you think you should. the first choice is always the right choice. don't stick around just because you are rethinking things.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    its very rare to have friends for that long. i have friends i have known for nearly 20 years. granted we dont catch up all the time but we know if need be, will be there for each other for anything. maybe just stop spending so much time together. just because you are good friends, that doesnt mean you have to hang around with each everyday. its so hard to make good loyal friends nowadays. just because her priorities have changed, that doesnt mean you shouldnt be friends anymore. my belief of a true friend is being there no matter what. unless she does anything horrible like steal from you, start rumors about you and things like that, you should still be friends with her.

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago

    Oh, right. My point was that becoming a parent always changes people. Their lives are going in a completely different direction than yours at the moment. Which....given your ages, is a blessing for you. So just go with what feels right. If you're done with them, just let it die. That's what I would do but I really have no problem letting go of people once they cease to entertain me. That probably seems cold but I think we should be more honest with each other rather than working to maintain relationships that don't even make us happy anymore. If we can divorce husbands and wives, we can certainly divorce friends. Don't feel bad about it.

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