Is it normal that i don't want him to become vegan?

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My boyfriend wants to become vegan but I feel stressed out about it because we are 18 and 19 and moving in together next year and I'm not sure we will be able to afford a vegan diet. I wanted to be vegan a while ago but was advised not to by my doctor because of my allergies to peanuts, chickpeas, soy, and tofu. I want to do this with him and support him but I don't know if I physically can. It's making me a bit nervous because when I tried to be vegan everything just ended up making me sick and throw up even when I was careful and read the ingredients, there was always something in vegan foods that would disagree with me. is it wrong that I'm hoping it's just a phase and that he gives up on it even though I agree with his motives? I have a friend who is vegan and the foods she has to buy are way more expensive than what we can probably afford while at University!

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  • noid
    9 years ago

    You don't have to eat the same as him.

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    • seekelp
      9 years ago

      Yeah, nowhere in that paragraph do you say anything about having to eat what he eats. You could try doing the vegetarian or pescetarian thing and see if it works.

      That being said, it's pretty easy to eat cheaply as a vegan. Potatoes, rice and beans are all cheap.

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      • charli.m
        9 years ago

        Still need more protein. Beans aren't a huge source of protein.

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        • seekelp
          9 years ago

          If you eat the right ones it can work, or just throwing other legumes into your diet can help too. Also, incorporating certain kinds of whole grains, like wheat berries, into your diet can help make up for that lack of animal protein.

          For OP I'd say that eggs are a good idea, but they ain't vegan.

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          • charli.m
            9 years ago

            Yes, but plant based proteins don't have as much protein as animal based, from memory.

            Also, B12 or B6, I forget which, are only found in animal foods. Tofu stuff often has fortified with whichever, but she cant eat that.

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            • seekelp
              9 years ago

              You're right on the B12 thing:
              http://www.vegetarian.org.uk/factsheets/b12factsheet.html

              Word on the street is that B12 supplements can usually take care of the problem.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry to say, something like this would be a deal breaker in a relationship for me. It is totally impractical to eat two completely separate diets in the same home and with a vegan, it might even be necessary to have different cookware.
    With your allergies, your doctor is absolutely correct, you will not be able to get a balanced diet if you go vegan.
    Perhaps you can talk this guy into a vegetarian diet and you two can share everything except your animal products. Otherwise, I see no future for you two, in the same house.

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    • Cherryblossomm
      9 years ago

      I know if it affected our relationship that much he'd drop it completely but I'd still feel bad, it's just that vegans rely on mostly legumes for protein and I am pretty much allergic to all of them.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Exactly.
        I wish you luck.

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  • maskofsanity
    7 years ago

    Why don't you go vegetarian?

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  • foods-dangerous-to-dogs
    7 years ago

    You dont have to have the same diet as your bf. Me and my mom live together and we have totally different diets. I'm a vegan and she's not. its alright.

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    It is expensive, which was your first concern. Understandable.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry, that does sound stressful. But you need to be healthy. I have a weird allergy that makes life annoying when sharing food so I can understand where you are coming from. But your boyfriend needs to accommodate your needs. If he can't do that simply because he wants to try and be vegan, then it isn't fair to you. I understand the many reasons for being vegan but not everyone can eat the same diet.

    Have you tried quinoa? It was a life saver for me.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    Never thought I'd be on a vegitarian site but this could be useful :)

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    • kingofcarrotflowers
      9 years ago

      http://plenteousveg.com/going-vegan-too-expensive/

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  • Caryopteris
    9 years ago

    If you have allergies, then it works best to cook from scratch. I am sure the thought of having to think about what you eat and cook more sounds like a lot of work - it is. I have Celiac disease, so I don't have a choice.

    Maybe try to compromise and try to eat organic and non-GMO but still use protein sources like fish, chicken, eggs, etc. Buy lots of veggies and cook them. Make turkey chili with more veggies than meat. That way you can get healthy without being so restrictive.

    I believe anybody who doesn't avoid GMOs will develop serious illnesses. I've been studying this a lot.

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    • seekelp
      9 years ago

      I take issue with your claims on GMOs. Have any peer-reviewed studies to back up your position?

      http://www.agbioworld.org/biotech-info/articles/biotech-art/peer-reviewed-pubs.html

      Here's a review article that analyzes animals that have been fed transgenic organisms. Of the 42 studies that this article includes, only 2 reported negative side effects, and these are both over fifteen years old. The vast majority concluded that transgenic feed had no negative effect on any animals.

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