Is it normal that i don't want a wedding

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I just don't see why I should go through all the hassle and spendings! if you're filthy rich, go ahead and pay someone to organise it for you.

But why do some people took out thousands of dollars on loan just for a wedding? And I don't get it when people say its because 'its a once in a lifetime thing' or they just want to celebrate the happiest day of their lives. How can they be happy with all those credits? And 'once in a lifetime'??? Yea a wedding may be once in a lifetime, but marriage IS A LIFETIME.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Who says you have to spend a ton on a wedding anyways? It can still be beautiful even if everything doesn't cost much.

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  • insane23
    11 years ago

    Totally normal!! Just get married in Las Vegas in a drive through!! Very Easy! save money and comotion!!

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    People who spend ridiculous amounts on weddings are foolish, especially to impress others.

    My ideal wedding: Wear my mothers dress, get married by a waterfall, have a great after-party with less than 100 people, probably less than 50. I don't need to see friends of friends of friends there eating my food. (No professional photographers unless theres some great deal going on) No millions of flowers.. and let the groom have some freaking fun, it's his wedding too.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I have a friend that is from a mega-wealthy family.

    She got married on the beach on St. John where I have a house. Her dress was a fun little sun dress that cost about $80 on St. Thomas. Officiating was a friend of mine that charged nothing. The beach cost nothing and the reception at the house (raiding my supply of Red Stripe on tap) cost nothing. (I've done weddings for three of my friends there.)

    When she got back to NYC she invited the friends that couldn't make it to the wedding to frosties at a Midtown Wendy's.

    That's the fun stuff you remember. Not how much your flowers cost.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    It's the only one of the three defining life events that you actually can celebrate. You don't know a whole lot about your birth, and even less about your death.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      The trouble is that, although it's supposed to be for the bride, it never really is.

      The bride is consumed with what other people think of the event. And how impressed they are. And what they thought. And did they like the food. What nonsense.

      For the rich the party is for family and business connections. At my sister's wedding my father and brother were working deals instead of paying attention to her.

      For the middle class it's to make people think you have more money than you do. And then regret spending so much when it all falls apart.

      It's just so bloody stupid.

      The groom doesn't matter, he's just there to get laid.

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  • wigsplitz
    13 years ago

    Have you ever seen the show "My Big Redneck Wedding" on CMT? Those people don't spend more than maybe a few hundred bucks but they have a blast and so do all the guests. Check out the show and maybe you could use similar ideas to suit your own taste. The basic idea is that you serve simple foods, have a short ceremony, have some crazy games and provide at least some free alcohol.

    I watch a show called Four Weddings as well, on TLC. It's a contest show in which four different brides attend each others weddings and score it and the winner gets a free honeymoon. Those weddings are usually pretty pricey and very traditional. Let me tell you, the redneck weddings are far more fun and they spend virtually nothing. It's all about family and friends and a good time, not showing off and forcing your guests to sit through hours of boring crap.

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  • georgienne
    13 years ago

    Yep, normal. I want one, but don't like it when they're done for show.
    Don't have one, have a small one, or do what many do, and have one later in your marriage when you have the freedom to splurge.

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