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I just feel there's so many wonderful people out there and why is it that you must by the laws of normal society just share yourself with one person in relationship terms? I can't believe you have to choose to stick to one person for ages when there are so many potential people out there.
it's normal to feel like that for someone that never HAD a real relationship.
And that's coming from a person living in an open relationship and experience with a 3-way relationship.
Ya, i have fun on the side and relatively regulary, but i have _ONE_ partner. ONE person i love. ONE person i would do everything they ask for. ONE person that fulfills me, dries my tears and comforts me, makes me laugh, makes me go through the day.
With the others? Just sex. Empty but satisfying. Having friends you have sex with is not the same as a relationship.
That being said, yeah, polyamoury exists, but there's plenty of people, me included, that tend to focus on only one life partner. It's not just societal laws, it's our nature.
I think a monogamous relationship is much less complicated, and it reduces jealousy. And if you have multiple partners, you might not get the chance to familiarize yourself with all of them, whereas with a single partner, you spend so much time together that you know them like the back of your hand. But if you really want to drop everything to pursue a life of polygamy, no one is stopping you. ..Except for maybe the government, seeing as it's illegal in many countries. Of course, that depends on where you currently take residence.
With a monogamous relationship a bonus is greatly reducing the risk of getting an STD. If you are female and you get pregnant you don't have to end up on the Maury Show trying to find out who the baby's daddy is.... If you are male you don't have to worry about getting many women pregnant at the same time and result in a very high child support bill... I understand where you are coming from but I think who ever you have sex with should be informed of your intentions and your sexual activities with others. And I hope all precautions of safe sex are taken.
I can kinda see where you're coming from with this, but each relationship system is a different experience... With monogamy you don't have to worry about jealousy or favouritism. But I'm sure that there are extra "perks" you could get without it. Some people are only capable of loving one person, but some aren't. I am by no means trying to bash your beliefs. Go for it if you like, but know that in western society it's illegal to marry more than one. If you wanted to marry your partners you'd have to move to a country that allowed it.
I wish you the best of luck:)
You sound like a selfish person.. Of course there will be jalousy... If you ever have feelings for one of "them"... Youre just "forbiden" to talk about it, or even you may be in pain just cause you will feel like you dont have the right to feel the way you do. And you will suffer when thinking about this one person going out or treating all these other persons the same way he/she does to you...