Is it normal that i don't understand whether we love each other or not

67% Normal
7 Comments

Hey I am 26 and have been in a relationship since I was 18.
I had may be a crush on my boyfriend when I first started to meet him but he had just had a bad break up and always kept talking about his ex so I never said anything to him. I really used to feel sorry for him and try to make him happy. I never said no to him for anything we even started making out without any commitment or anything. For me it was like he needs me and I have to be there . After some time he proposed to me and I said yes. I was really happy then.After that we lived apart for 6 years studying, working.. I missed him but not as much as he said he did . We rarely have anything in common. I am a talkative, fun, very confused, childish person and he is very mature , quite, boring to some extent . We hardly chit chat , we don't have any common interests .
He has no control over what he says and ends up hurting me more than often and does not even realize it. All of that is my fault. I really don't understand how can we love each other when we don't understand each other.
I am going through a very bad phase and really need to sort this out. It'd be great if some one could help me on this.

Voting Results
67% Normal
Based on 12 votes (8 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 7 )
  • kelili
    11 years ago

    It seems that you are more attached than in love with him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • ohplease
    11 years ago

    If you're asking the question, you don't love him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • sheat
    11 years ago

    talk about It and let him know what you don't like.. if that doesn't help well I believe you should end the relationship because your getting so confused

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Lia
    11 years ago

    Perhaps you should end the relationship. If you feel so uncertain if you love him or not, then take it as closer to the not-loving-him end. You obviously don't love him enough to marry him. And I personally hate the term 'opposites attract' - they may attract, but for long term they just have nothing in common and won't know what to talk about or do together that the both of you will enjoy.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • pussinboots
    11 years ago

    It's because you're different characters. I mean think about magnets + and - stick together. and the same poles push each other.

    So, we have the same situation with my darling. She is mature and serious one, and im funny, cheerful one. :-)

    The women as me, we couldn't work in the past.

    So, love is not only about passion. It's also about being life-mates. I think you guys are. ;)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • t-k-w
    11 years ago

    one thing I learnt that has stuck with me is that most of the time, opposites do attract.. if we were with someone exactly like ourselves then we it wouldn't keep things interesting and fresh.. you cannot have the perfect relationship.. there are always things that need to be worked on and that can sometimes drive a relationship.. but in saying that, you also need some things in common to relate over certain subjects.. just follow your gut because the heart can sometimes cloud your judgement on what's best for you.. then you can never go wrong..

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Relationships become intense and sometimes drift apart at different times, but this does not mean they are over! Of many if us are here to talk, just seek us out! Good luck with your choices

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0