Is it normal that i don't think i'm good enough?

I have really good selfestime except for one thing. I have a big crush on my best friend, but I won't make a move cause I don't think I'm good enough for him. Like I think that he should have the prettiest, smartest, nicest girl out there. And I feel like I wouldn't deserve him because I'm not those things. So is it normal to feel this way about someone you like for a long time? Or am I just weird?

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Based on 45 votes (34 yes)
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  • ygrowup

    It is really very common, but to live with the regret will be much harder then putting yourself out there for him! Good luck with your choices!

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  • eddie90

    talk to him! if it doesnt work at least you tried you guys will always have your friendhsip if it doesnt work!! your as beutiful as you set yourself out to be!! just be a lady and respct yourslef and guys will notice

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  • Sammy245

    Its normal dont worry. I actually have been known to run and hide when I have crushes on people (literally). I am a waitress and I had a crush on the Pepsi delivery guy and whenever he came in to deliever the Pepsi I would hide in the walk in freezer where it was freezing until he left. I am a chicken too so I feel your pain lol. I have advice though, just say somthing to him. You can do it!!!!

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  • scullyfbi

    It is not Normal.
    But it is very common.

    You are concerned about pleasing others. Everyone considers that but it is not healthy for that to be first.

    The issue has been around "forever". It is what goes on when you hear about trying to "find yourself". It is the basis of all "self help" programs, books, lectures, courses, therapy- etc. etc.

    So it is not easy to work out alone. That is known.

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  • animaguskid

    I've pretty much always felt that way about every guy I've ever been attracted to. I myself don't have a whole lot of self-confidence but I can tell you that other people don't always share your same perceptions. Really if you feel that way I think you should let your friend know and let him decide if you're "good enough" or not. In the end the person who will make him the happiest is the person he should be with and who are you to decide that that person isn't you? You can't know for sure whether or not you are or are not what your friend is looking for.

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  • billyboy

    well, it DOES seem like a lack of self esteem to me. everyone has confidence issues at some time or place. that is pretty normal.

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  • lenna

    Yeah...i know. I feel like that too...:(
    Just be yourself and believe in yourself and try to show him how you feel

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