Is it normal that i don't think i'll ever find true love?

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Everyone finds people they believe to love, everyone grows sick of them, and then everyone dies either alone or unhappy it seems. I am 19 and so far, I have not witnessed any other type of relationship. I have never seen this happy love that everyone desires and some say they have aquired.

I don't love my current boyfriend, but he's the only friend I have managed to make. I suffer from social anxiety disorder and am a selective mute, so if I actually meet someone, it's rare and I hold onto it. I do love him as a friend, but this doesn't feel like romance. I don't think I ever will have romance.

Also, I am asexual, so that would make it even harder because I'd have to find someone who won't want to have sex. My current boyfriend is the only one who fits that description too. He's not a bad person either. I just don't love him that way.

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    Color me confused, but wanting true love and romance is incompatible with asexuality, isn't it? Part of romance is physical passion, not just emotional attachment. You're right that it's going to be very difficult to find someone who has a desire for deep love without a matching desire for the physical expression of that love.

    It's flatly untrue, though, that people inevitably get tired of one another. My parents were married for 46 years, and until my mom died, she and my dad were inseparably close. I've known my husband for 18 years now, and we're still completely in love.

    I hope your boyfriend knows your true feelings about him. It isn't very fair to stay in a relationship with someone who may hope to turn it into a different kind of relationship. Sex is only one facet of a relationship, but not having it in a long-term relationship is an absolute deal-breaker for about 99 percent of the human population. If he's asexual too, though, he may be your best bet, it's going to be tough to find anyone else who wants to spend the rest of his life holding hands passionately.

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  • millefeuille
    11 years ago

    i am an asexual as well, but i do not have a longing for a romance/ relationship; so i cannot fully understand your boon.
    you don't have to be 'in love' with him. forcing yourself would just make things more complicated. you're probably putting too much thought into it, if you're happy with liking him, that's good enough.
    and don't feel so down about not being able to experience romance, i'm sure something will happen eventually. :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      At least you're not one of those sex drones who tell me in order to find a love it needs to be disgusting and vulgar.

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      • millefeuille
        11 years ago

        bah, those people have it confused that sex=love/love=sex.

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    True love does exist. It's just hard to believe because it rarely works out. For example, I'm in love with a girl who doesn't feel the same way. That doesn't mean true love isn't real though, because I know what I feel for her is love. I've never felt that way towards anyone before, but I can confirm that true love is real. Some people discover it when they're young, and others don't until they're in their '40s, but it exists.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Well....you never know.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Nobody will, true love doesn't exist. It's like trying to find bigfoot.

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