Is it normal that i don't talk to my old friends anymore?

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A year ago, I moved an hour away from the town I grew up in. I thought I was going to stay in touch with all my old friends and for the first few months, I did. Now, I have stopped replying to their messages and coming to the parties that they invite me to. I realized that we have nothing in common and that their conversations became boring and trivial. Moving away made me grow up and I think I have outgrown my old friends. I really did love them at one point in my life but now a conversation with them feels like a waste of time. Is it normal to feel this way about my old friends?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Friends are often for a reason, a season and sometimes, but rarely, for a lifetime.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Lifetime huh.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        It depends on the connection or lack thereof. It's kinda depressing and probably wrong of me but I've been preferring to spend my time alone lately. I haven't contacted old friends in years and I can be standoffish in regards to making new ones.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          I also spend alot of time alone, but I still like my friends enough to see them. You just have to divide your time properly so you can get away when the urge takes over. Or maybe you're just depressed.

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            Yeah, you're spot on about both of your points! I have a dear friend who is a self declared narcissist and one the main things I love about him and narcissists in general is an immunity to codependency. Or at least that's my opinion on some of those with whom I'm acquainted.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              Because that's exactly what they want to impress upon you, that they are the best and don't need anyone. That observation is a lie he/she has duped you with, that's what they do best.

              They are very codependent people, just not in the sense that they adopt others beliefs and functions. They manipulate the codependence between themselves and others to their advantage, but without those people they are lost. So they may be single minded and controlling, but they are very dependant on others in order to do this. If anything, they need people more than anyone else in the world.

              Codependency is not a negative thing in the slightest if both the people are good at heart, if one is a narc however, it is quite bad.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Completely normal.

    Welcome to growing up.

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  • chrisdada
    10 years ago

    indeed welcome to growing up..

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    In life we have many, many acquaintances, but few "friends". All to many of us do not understand the difference, but when you do finally make a friend, it will be somebody that will you remain close with, no matter the distance between you, for your whole life.
    There may be tough times, when angry words separate you, but in time, the friendship is too strong to resist and you will reconcile.
    All the others are no more than acquaintances, temporary meetings of like minded people, each heading down their own path.

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