Is it normal that i don't respect my dad anymore?

Ever since I found out my dad was cheating on my mom (who I am very close with), my relationship with him is very strained. He not only cheated on her, but then lied to both our faces when we confronted him on the matter separately, even though we had plenty of evidence against him. He later admited that he did in fact cheat on her, but it was too late because my mom has already left to live somewhere else. Also, he would fight with her and pick out her flaws, making her feel bad about herself. I've never seen him show remorse for anything he's done, I dont think he's ever even apologized. He just blamed my mom and said it was her fault that he did what he did. This was a little less than a year ago, and I've come to realize I have no respect for him, and absolutely no trust. This is only one of the many awful things he has done to my mom, and since she's not here anymore he's starting to behave that way to me. It's not physical abuse or anything, just a lot of lying, cheating, and just being a huge piece of shit. I don't want to feel this way though. I want to be a good daughter, because in spite of everything, he is still my father. But after everything he has done, I just have no respect for him as a father or a person anymore.

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Comments ( 10 )
  • westoptic

    I know how you feel girl. My dad was my hero and then my mom told me he had been cheating on her for years and hiding it from us and it destroyed any ounce of respect I had for him. I'm 21 now, and it happened when I was 10 or 11 and I've never gained respect for him since then.

    He doesn't deserve your respect. He is manipulative and destructive and the anger and incredulity his actions will continue to cause you are not good for your health.

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  • RoseIsabella

    He doesn't deserve respect, because he's a pure asshole. You're normal, he's not.

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  • Ellenna

    Why are you with him and not with your mum?

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    • eurolys

      She went to her homeland, Thailand. So unless I drop everything I've been working for here, I can't exactly go live with her. But I have definitely thought about it! But to be honest, I think I'd rather try to save up so I can move out.

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      • Ellenna

        That's really sad, are you still able to keep in touch with her?

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        • eurolys

          Oh yeah definitely! We talk and text all the time. She also now has a boyfriend who treats her like a princess, so she got a kind of bittersweet ending. (:

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          • Ellenna

            I'm glad she found a happy ending

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  • jethro

    Move out and be on your own.

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  • ifuckedyourdaughter

    My parents never seperated but fought alot its not fair for those whos parents seperate

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  • JakeS

    Having been cheated on myself, I say it's completely understandable

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