Is it normal that i don't miss my long distance boyfriend?

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I met my boyfriend at university and we decided to give long distance a go which was unusual for me (I have commitment issues and hate being in a relationship) but I really fell for him so I felt it was worth a go. Well that was just over a year ago but for a couple of months now when we are apart I don't miss him. I try to find excuses not to see him as he is too clingy and I don't know how to cope. We did see each other most weekends but I missed having free time and I saw seeing him as a chore as I never got time to see my friends. Is this normal in a long term relationship? I've never been in one that has lasted more than 3 months before.

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Based on 21 votes (10 yes)
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  • Charli.m's_Messy_Period
    8 years ago

    It's normal. Now, find a new boyfriend.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    That infatuation phase tho.
    Seriously, it's how most relationships start. There is this infatuation phase where you fall madly in love but after about 6 months, it wears off and it's kind of like sobering up. For some people, they only lose the anxiety to be with the person 24/7 but they still feel attached to the person, usually this is what leads to the long-term relationship. Then you have people who, like you, find out that they weren't as into the person as they thought they were.

    It's a totally normal but to be quite honest with you, I wouldn't know how to break up with a clingy and overly emotional dude. I have been with a few and it is a huge pain in the ass.

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  • ODED_OBLITERATE
    8 years ago

    Oded here, this is a normal behavior if you aren't ready which is clearly stated that you are not ready for a boyfriend. The right thing to do here would be to explain what you explained here to him, maybe not in such a direct way like here but nicer and keep it friend zone for now until you feel better about commiting. It is more selfless and he won't get that badly wounded now as opposed to a far worse break up in the future. Will you grow out of these commitment issues? Maybe. I hope you do. Just live and learn. Because nobody should be alone.

    Oded....out

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    • Jsmith21
      8 years ago

      I don't know if will grow out of it. I've always felt like this and I look at couples who have been together decades and think how can you put up with someone for that long?! My parents marriage really put me off commitment forever. I'm just really worried about hurting him. He keeps saying things like "when we get married" and i know he is far more emotionally invested than I am. So I don't know what to do.

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      • ODED_OBLITERATE
        8 years ago

        Oded here, you gotta train your mind. Don't worry about other people's relationships. You gotta build your ownself up. Train to be commited. Like i mentioned above, you gotta friend zone it. It will do a great deal of psychological damage to him being with someone who doesn't want to commit. Also as I mentioned above, it will hurt less now than in the future. Not saying to cut him out but you gotta explain and train to commit.

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