Is it normal that i don't love my mom?

I've been always thinking that mother and family in general are things that should always get love and respect without earning it. But during the last 2 years everything has changed. My mom became a different person or maybe I started to see her real face.
Having strict parents is normal and I know it. But everything has to have some borders.
I'm not allowed to do pretty much of things that people of my age do. It includes dying my hair (or a small part), going out (though sometimes I can), listening to the music I like without listening to a 2 hours long story on how rock music affects people, using my phone during the day, watching TV whenever I want to, painting my nails black and etc. This was ok for me until yesterday. It was my birthday party and after everyone was gone my mom started to tell me that she doesn't like one of my frineds (the one that is closer to me than the others). And today she told me that I'm not going to go to the university I want if that girl is going to come with me. The only exception would be a huge change in my life which means that I won't ever talk to that girl. I can't take this anymore. I hate her. She says that I'm not normal, i have communicating problems, I don't have much friends, she calls me ugly, laughs at my flaws and my hair style. She says that I'm a psychopath and that I need help. I guess I do but it has nothing to do with the things that she finds not normal. I can't tell this to my friends because I don't want them to know that my mom doesn't like one of them. I had to tell this to someone and I decided to do that here. Someone please tell me what to do.
P. S. I don't want to get to the point where I try to commit a suicide...not again.