Is it normal that i don't love my immediate family?

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I had a relatively normal upbringing and came from a very affluent family, but ever since I could remember I had a hard time having any sort of emotional connection or feelings of love for my parents or my sister. I have always felt intellectually superior to them and have never tried to let them in my own life as an adult. My sister recently got engaged and I really don't care nor do I want to attend her wedding. My mother died when I was 18 and I couldn't have cared less.

I haven't seen my father for almost 2 years although he actively tries to be a part of my life and I only consult my sister for business reasons. I do however relate more to my girlfriends family and look to her mother and father as my own and the feeling is mutual, so I don't feel that I have psychological issues. I just can't seem to connect or even want to see my father and sister.

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  • lustyswandive
    8 years ago

    Love is a choice you make. You can "love" anybody.
    You choose not to love these people.
    Ask yourself, why?
    Then when you find the reason decide if it's worth holding on to.

    Just know that YOUR hate and resentment( or whatever feelings you're denying) are poison to YOUR soul. Not theirs.
    Let it go. Let love flow.
    Negate the hate.
    Chose love and forgiveness.
    Who knows? Maybe your true love can break the spell that imprisons their icy hearts.
    Even if it doesn't, you'll still be better of loving them as opposed to anything else.

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  • yu-gi-ohChampion25
    8 years ago

    its ok to hate family if you have a good reason, but if they're great loving parents but that arnt abusive dont treat them like shit or you'll feel guilty later in life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't hate them, and no I was not abused I just don't like them and would prefer to not have them in my life as an adult.

      My family is very much a part of the one percent of America, and I resent their attitude towards the rest of the populace. My girlfriend is middle class and I love her family. Being rich is fine and all but when your entire families goals are all about making more money than most people could dream of I find it kind of revolting, almost sick.

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  • Chrissi
    8 years ago

    Except for the death and engagement, that is exactly my family and honestly, I don't give a fu#k about them.

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