Is it normal that i don't look the way that i imagine myself to look?

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Sometimes when I look in the mirror I get this overwhelmingly uncomfortable feeling that I am looking at someone else, or looking at a complete stranger. I feel like the way that I picture myself on the inside is completely the opposite than what my facial features, body, clothing, etc. look like. Sometimes when I drastically change my appearance to make myself look unnatural like dye my hair blonde, get a tattoo, etc. I feel like I look more like "myself" even though it's obviously something unnatural. This has nothing to do with wanting to have a certain style or to be prettier, I just genuinely feel like when I look in the mirror I am looking at a stranger. I'm also naturally small-boned and petite, but I feel like my "true" self is much curvier for some reason. Does anyone else have this experience?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I feel you.
    I live the life of a 35 to 40 year old man, but see this creature with snow white hair and beard, and the hard eyes of a much older man in the mirror, with no lines or wrinkles adding to the dichotomy of my reflection.
    I am just no ready to be who I appear to be.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Ideally I would love to be taller, leaner, naturally auburn or red haired with eyes that are less brown and more green. I would also like to fine tune some of the bone structure in my face but nothing drastic. I can relate to what you're saying as I would most definitely like to be the person I see in my minds eye, in my heart and in my dreams when I go to sleep at night.

    I'm a Colombian American of Spanish, German, Welsh and Scott-Irish descent mostly so nearly everyone is blond or brunette but inside I've I always felt different like I somehow didn't fit in with the rest, like I was misplaced and somehow alien to them.

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    • Hoppy1943
      10 years ago

      I feel you

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Thanks!

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    I know what you mean.
    I don't sound the way I hear myself. I always cringe when hearing a recording of my voice.

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    • anti-hero
      10 years ago

      This too ^

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      I used to do that a lot as a young child because I thought my voice was too big and masculine. Then after highschool when I started working in radio broadcasting I learned to love my voice! I haven't worked in my field of study in so long that its not funny and actually quite embarrassing to admit, however.
      :-'(

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      • Holzman_67
        10 years ago

        What do you do for work these days?

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    Normal. Happens to the best of us.

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    • Hoppy1943
      10 years ago

      I always and have never liked the way God created me. People who tell you you can get the pretty girls no matter how ugly you are are full of crap. It is possible but i have not seen it done but once or twice tops

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      • anti-hero
        10 years ago

        Are you following me?

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  • driedroses
    10 years ago

    I feel very similar.

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