Is it normal that i don't look manly

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I'm a guy in my early 20s, I am heterosexual and only get aroused by women, but somehow I just don't look manly enough like I should. Part of the problem is that I'm short and skinny (5'7 and 160 pounds). I have very little muscle and feel as light as a feather. Some of my friends have said that I don't have a manly walk and that I look almost graceful when I'm walking or running. I can grow a full beard and mustache but somehow my face just looks so feminine that all my facial hair doesn't seem to make me look any more masculine. I kind of do have more soft and delicate facial features, including small lips, a small nose, and big eyes with naturally long eyelashes. I actually cut off my eyelashes once but they grew back. I hate how feminine I look and I just want to look more manly and tough. I feel like guys don't respect me because I don't look tough.

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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago

    Aww, there there. Patience, my pet. You'll likely grow into yourself, if ya know what I mean. Men tend to look much better as they age. You could work out a little bit too, if you want to get a bit musclier. I suggest you keep the beard (because I love them) and DO NOT cut your beautiful eyelashes!!!! Ever! Again!

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  • Dad
    9 years ago

    Bruce lee (probably one of the most respected, manly, fighters) could have easily been seen as small and feminine.

    Maybe try martial arts, it can build muscle, flexibility and confidence. Plus if any BIG manly guy comes up and treats you like a girl you can just punch them out (if you wanted to) :)

    Early 20's is very young still. I mean look at the women :D

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  • zsdworknman
    9 years ago

    A soft jaw line can cause a man to look feminine. But if this is the case grow your beard but trim it along your jaw to give it fake definition . Hit the gym hard it will help build your confidence and release chemicals that make you feel better. I'm 5'8" 155 but I hit the weights regularly and the long eye lashes can be a pain sometimes but keep them my top lashes get tangled in the bottom ones sometimes but ladies like them . Improve what you can and accept what you can't you'll be just fine.

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  • dinz
    9 years ago

    Puberty missed me when it decided to take a detour a couple of exits before but it finally found me.

    In other words - in good timing. Just fine wines, the good stuff take time.

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  • Ebola69
    9 years ago

    Have you considered becoming a woman?

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  • reality1984
    9 years ago

    You need to stop thinking about people who aren't thinking of you, truth is no one cares, most people are too busy living their lives to be thinking of yours, as long as your attractive that's all that matters.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Honestly, I personally like men who are somewhat pretty, but I prefer poufy lips. If someone is overly rugged I'm not feeling it. 170 lbs at 5ft 7in doesn't sound so small to me. My first ex husband was a dead ringer for Cillian Murphy.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    All i can say is if it really bothers you i would drink some protein shakes and work out and get in shape that can change how you look drastically.

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  • Wolfeye
    9 years ago

    I think you're too stressed about it. There are any number of celebrity men, young and old, who have boyish looks. Ruggedness doesn't necessarily translate to sex appeal.

    There is nothing wrong with being graceful. I have been doing martial arts for decades and get compliments on how graceful I move. It's never a bad thing.

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