Is it normal that i don't like when someone likes me a lot?

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Okay I have a problem. I dont know if it's bc I'm insecure or what. But whenever a guy shows me A LOT of interest, I get grossed out. Basically bc I don't know them well and I think they are creepy and really sexually attracted to me.

However, when I find a guy I like, I get happy when I'm around them and when they flirt with me and give me attention. But the moment they start becoming "serious" with their feelings for me, I freak out. It's like I can't comprehend "why" and "how" they like me THAT much, when there are sooo many other more awesome girls out there. Therefore, I get afraid and push away from the relationship. I have been single my entire life because of this and I'm afraid I'm going to be like this forever. I don't like affection (unless I'm giving it). And whenever I think about sex, I get turned off if I know the guy REALLY likes me and is getting "off"/pleasure from me.

Maybe it will be different when I am in love, but I can never get close to someone bc of a fear. It's almost as if I'm afraid of my life drastically changing, afraid of leaving everything behind (I'm really close with my family). I'm 23 so if I would get in a relationship, that means serious and marriage.

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  • Dalinar
    7 years ago

    I feel the exact same way, my best guy friend recently expressed his feelings towards me and now whenever I think about him I get grossed out even though a couple months before I always thought about him that way and I flirted with him. I really want to be with him but I've been broken so many times that I just I feel like he's playing me because I told him that I liked him last year.

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  • habertlilly123
    11 years ago

    Yeah, I know how hard it can be trying to figure out which time shares to invest in. The other day I was choosing between Hawaii or Aspen, unfortunately my bitch of a wife told me I couldn't, but I'm not into gay sex so I wouldn't understand. Like the other day I bought a kit kat for my 4 year old daughter and she spit it up and shit her pants. I don't think being retarded makes you stupid, just different.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    You have commitment issues.

    If you don't feel the need for a partner, don't force yourself to have one. Do you think you're happier alone? It does have it's perks.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    yeah i get that, im aware of this when i talk to women, it takes finess to be able to show interest and not be too needy or you run the risk of looking like some horn dog

    I flirt a bit, but im looking for serious relationship myself, not "hook ups" but it take time to have other understand this to be the case

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