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I've never really liked sex. I've always only had sex to please the other person, because I want them to be happy. But now I'm aggravated that every time I try to get into a new relationship, they always bring up having sex too soon for me. Why do guys care about sex so much? Is it normal that I don't?
Ur so normal.sex is not everything in a relationship.if u find the right guy he will love u with or without sex.
I feel it’s normal, sex is not the main/only reason people should date, if it is then they are clearly dating for the WRONG reasons!!!!!, you are normal in my opinion, really hope you find someone who understands you and won’t pressure you or force you into it, sex is optional and no one is under any obligation to engage in it nor enjoy it despite what the shallow majority may think!!! I personally don’t care that much about sex, I have much bigger and important focuses and goals, all the best finding someone who understands you, I am very similar to you in this regard, are you on social media by any chance? I’m always on lookout for friends with mindsets akin to mine.
It's the smaller percentage to not like it at all, but I'm sure that I'm not the only one who thinks that people today make too big a deal about sex. I'm not big on sex at all anymore.
You are NOT normal. Stay away from all men. You are a creepy twisted sick influence on the world. Worms crawl thru your brain. Go to a shrink, confess your mental disease.
The guys you date bring up sex "too soon" you say. What's "too soon"? Within an hour? After three dates? After dating for three months?
You don't have to like sex, but you should know that it's a very rare guy who doesn't like and want sex.
The way you phrase your question suggests that the reason you don't _want_ sex, is because you've never _enjoyed_ sex. If that's the case, there are a few possibilities. Maybe you're just one of those rare people who has no interest whatsoever in sex. You could be totally inhibited sexually and hate your own body so much that you're incapable of enjoying sex. Or maybe you've never been with a guy who has the sensitivity and skills necessary to give you sexual pleasure.
If your attitude is that sex is something you allow a guy to do to you, then it's always going to be a pretty crap experience.
Do you enjoy solo-sex? If you don't know how to give yourself sexual pleasure - or you don't allow yourself to give yourself sexual pleasure - then it's unlikely that you're ever going to find someone with whom you'll enjoy having sex.
Sex is not an obligatory part of life. You can just call yourself asexual and refuse to ever have anything to do with it. It's your body and you have the right to do that.
However, unless you're going to only date asexual guys (or girls), you have to accept that guys are going to be interested in having sex with you.
Too soon as within a couple of dates or even sooner. I can get myself off but I could also just as easily live without it. As for others, it's very extremely rare that they get me off and even when they do, I'd rather live without it.
So do yourself a favor and live without it.
Nickvey makes the point rather crudely, but frankly, I think it's pretty messed-up to have sex with a guy when you'd rather not do it, you go into it knowing you're not going to enjoy it, and even if you do have an orgasm, you don't like it (although how the hell someone can have an orgasm and not enjoy it is a mystery to me).
When I have sex, the pleasure I give is more important to me that what I get. If I just want to have an orgasm, I can jerk off.
The feeling I get is that, if I'd had the misfortune to date someone like you and we had - by some miracle - ended up having sex, I would have found the experience profoundly disappointing. So much so, that it would have never happened again.
And, since I believe sex is an important part of bonding with someone, the relationship would have ended very quickly.
But then I'm not asexual, and that's obviously the sort of person you need to find.
You're completely normal. Sadly some guys are in relationships just so they CAN have sex with one person frequently. Or they try to seek out multiple girls ONLY for sex with as little strings attached as possible. Im not like that but other guys think its normal. Personally I'd rather be with someone so we could spend quality time with each other and simply explore and enjoy life in our own way
Yes, that's the kind of connection I've been seeking. Sadly it seems almost non existent:(
You're correct unfortunately:( I'm seeking the saame type of relationship but it's difficult to meet well grounded people anyway. Not wanting to have sex within a few weeks of meeting just makes it worse to really find someone who you can connect with on a deep level...
Also one more thing, the fact that the OP doesn’t like sex and still has it while in a relationship is an extremely selfless quality and one that is attractive and positive:-)
The question I have to ask first is, do you just not like it or do you absolutely have no sexual feelings or desire? I know someone who identifies as the later. She has absolutely no sexual feelings or desires. She doesn't even have the desire to masturbate. She finds sex gross and disgusting. And yes...she is in a seemingly happy relationship with a man who understands this. If you just plain don't enjoy it that is one thing. But if you have no feelings or desires for sex the term is called Asexual. I can't say if it is normal or not but it does happen.