Is it normal that i don't like my sister!
I know many people don't get on well with their family members, especially when they are young. But I'm in my late 20s now and I'm really having hard time tolerating my sister. As children, she usually mistreated me; she preferred her friends over me and had no problem telling me this to my face. I don't want to bother you with old details but anyway, our relation wasn't good. I think this also reflected on me, since one, it messed up my self-confidence (until very recently I wasn't confident enough). Two, I also learned to be independent since I couldn't find the support I needed at home (my parents never paid attention me either, I think because I was a middle child, of course she is the eldest).
Anyway, of course when we grew up, each started to have her own life, but still I can't stand her actions or attitude most of the time. I thought I'm over all of this now, and to be honest, I was sometimes grateful for my bad childhood because it made me a very independent person. The problem is I still feel I'm mistreated; I never expected anything from her and now I feel she's expecting too much from me. Sometimes I feel she's being rather selfish :S For example, even though she knows I value my independence a lot, she keeps taking my stuff! I mean things like clothes or accessories! Even though she knows I don't like that! I mean it's not like once or twice, no! Simply she takes them to show off or when she runs out of clean clothes!!!!!!
She never helps me at the house chores and she also takes me for granted. We have the same major, so she takes extra work and when she gets stuck with it, she threw some of it on me. I can't say "no" because everyone then treats me like I'm the evil witch who doesn't want to help! Also, once she started a new job, she let me do all the preparation for her work (I volunteered for that though bec. I really liked it) but she just took me for granted again, and let me do everything. And finally, the last straw, she applied where I work and got accepted!!! I can't take it! I try to live with all the stuff I mentioned before, but this one was a bit too much for me! I do wish her all the best I swear and I am not jealous of her, but I don't want to work with a family member espcially my sister! She is a bit bossy and like to domineer the scene; she likes to be the star. And I think she gets annoyed or jealous when she realizes it's not about her. Many times she gave remarks which showed that she's not very thrilled with the fact that I am doing better. And recently, she's been copying off my work and using it without telling me! I specifically told her not to do that but she even lied about "copying it accidentally"!!!!! But she also used it! So I don't know how the hell she thought I would buy that! I don't know what to do! If I opened my mouth, my parents say I am not nice and she turns everything against me. I also feel guilty to feel this way. But I don't know what to do! I feel so stressed! Should I quit? Confront her? What should I do?