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I love God and I love people, but I dislike comparing this love to that of a partner. I don't think it's the same thing, and I don't like how love is portrayed on TV, in books, etc.
I think that having a partner is more about sharing a life than passion, infatuation, obsession, romance, sex, etc.
Are these thoughts normal?
I love my husband. I love my pets. I love my friends. I love my family. And I love my life.
But none of them in the same way. Why do I need to explain the difference? Can't I just love and be on my merry way?
You have no idea how many philosophers have devoted their lives in the pursuit of a true definition of love.
My advice to you is to not worry about the preconceived notions of the way that the media portrays it. If you know you love something or someone, then it is best to just accept it rather than spend a fruitless lifetime examining what you are actually feeling. We all have our own ideal of what love truly is.
Culture's view of love is all kinds of jacked up! Why? Scripture tells us that God is love, and those who don't know God don't know love. Now watch everyone get upset about what I just said. Even though the true God has revealed Himself to all of us, some people refuse to accept it as the truth. Just like our society has a twisted Hollywood point-of-view on love, some people also have a twisted view of who God is. For example, the world believes there are many gods, and many paths to heaven. Even though the flawless word of God tells us He is the only God, and salvation through Jesus is the only way to Heaven. No freeking wonder why the view of love is so jacked up! Many people have denied the love of God. How sad. How selfish, how foolish. The troubles of this world are the result of our free will. A free will which allows us to be foolish. I trust in my own understanding because I understand this world and examine it through truth... but I take no credit for the wisdom I have, because God has revealed truths to me. Truths like, the humble are not proud, we all have sin, none of us compare to God, we do not know better then God, all wisdom comes from God, etc. Someone above said "it is funny because you believe in God", I say it is sad because you don't! Watch what will happen when you put your faith in humans, to develop cures for things, or new energy sources, or we think proudly that we can escape extinction by flying to Mars! I think history proves how foolish we all are. We are lucky that some people believe in what is right still. I say have this world, have your sex parties, have another drink, have your perception of life, have your abortions, have your wars, have your green house gases, have your destruction, have your theories of why we are here and how we came to be, have kids without being married, believe that you don't need God, enjoy your short life, enjoy your big house, enjoy your car, and everything else... I will trust in my Lord, and leave my body to become dust on this cursed soil. Maybe get upset about what I have said, maybe agree, or maybe wake up before it is too late!
Would you really want to share your life with someone you felt nothing for? People put too much pressure on love and that's why we get all this bullshit.
Why can't there be different levels? I love my friends, my family, my boyfriend... but in different ways. If you pick a concept apart so that it has no meaning anymore, that's your own loss.
If you think there's something wrong with romance and passion then we are coming from a place that's so fundamentally different I'm not sure what else to say at this juncture.
I find romantic "Love" a very vague and pretty pointless concept.
It means so many things to different people that I doubt there's even a common ground there. It's like an emotional "free outta jail" ticket for any idiocy. "Oh, I'm not myself, I'm so in love".
There are certain cultures that don't abuse this term like we do, I'd rather have the Japanese subtlety and finesse when it actually comes to relationships.
Hi TruthsetUfree,
Your words are rather passionate. It's a nice quality. I feel as if I don't see posts like yours often. I don't know if they are constructive or hindering to society. Well I just wanted to thank you for sharing.
-Mike
Lol, thanks Mike. I try to explain things through Gods word... to answer your comment concerning this type of post, "if they are constructive or hindering to society". I think truth and love work in both ways. Would it not be more difficult to teach someone something, if they believed they already knew everything about the topic? Opposed to first hindering their (the student's) understanding so the teacher could then start with a solid base for teaching. When I was in the military, they took everything away from me, they tear you down to nothing, so they can teach you effectively. They humble you, then teach you. Truth and love for one and other works in the same way. Suppose a child takes a candy bar from a store without knowing it was a crime. When the kid's parents try to punish that child, the child wouldn't really understand why he/she is being punished, and severe punishment would not really benefit the kid. Now, suppose the child knows it is stealing, but does it again anyway. If the parents love that kid, they will punish him/her, so the kid doesn't end up in prison later. Our reaction as humans, when we are 'called out' in wrong doings, is to get angry, or try to lie our way out of responsibility. Love, has to be willing to do what is right for the offender, if it means the truth is...bla bla bla... sorry it hurts your feelings... at least it will be constructive. Anyway, I need to get some work done!
Yeah; I can agree with that. I personally think that love is an opinion, and therefore, there is no "true love". People think of "love" as this thing that's very special and happens to one in a million, not too many really know what love is, the most powerful thing anyone can have, blah, blah, blah...
I, myself, believe in the love between God and family, but because there are so many different definitions of romantic love, I honestly believe that if you feel you've found "love" then you found it. You've heard it, when people say, "I hate it when people throw around the 'L' word", butIthink all that is a bunch of boodgie. Really, there is no "L" word, or there is no definition of "love". Love is the way you see it an what you want it to be.
I know it's a little hard to understand what I am saying.
I thought it was interesting when you said "one in a million" because I plan to only have one partner in my life and she will indeed be 1 out of billions. And, I don't mean to say that I need any sort of fairytale, but I think that I just have to be picky and follow God. I guess my version of love for relationships is for someone who will share life with you and who God guides you to or approves of you together or you think would approve of you together.
I don't know maybe I'm "insane", but I think it's really freaking difficult for a person to find someone who they could actually share life with. In other words, I mean it only happens one out of millions and a realistic person is capable of both recognizing it and recognizing when it's not it.
What do you think?
Well, that's your opinion on love. I don't think there is is any "true" love, I think love is whatever you want it to be which is why people find it so hard to define. I don't believe that there is any one type of love. I believe that there are so many different types of love and people feel it in so many different ways. Few people find someone that they are willing to spend the rest of their lives with, but just because they don't doesn't mean that it's not love. Love is whatever you want it to be. That's the way I see it.