Is it normal that i don't like bil and his gf living with us?

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My husband and I just moved into our new home a few months ago. His 22-year-old brother moved his girlfriend of 3 years in without having a talk with my husband and me. Brother-in-law and his girlfriend go to school full-time but only she works part-time on the weekends. They are in their room all day and don't come out whenever husband and I are in the living room. I saw that they only come out to do some quick meals and laundry when I'm not present, and in the room. There is awkward silence in the house. Brother-in-law, his girlfriend, and I are not close. They don't pay any bills and I have overheard her, on one of my days off from work, being angry at things around house, her favorite pot, which is mine, is not cleaned and ready for her, and she bangs my dishes. I was surprised. How do I tell my husband that I don't want this in my house? I don't want to come off as if I'm kicking out husband's brother's girlfriend. But a lot of times, its very uncomfortable in my own home.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    It's your house too your husband should have discussed it with you first. If he doesn't take your opinion on board you may have to poison them.

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  • ceagl
    11 years ago

    It's your home and no one should be moved in without your consent. You and your dh need to be on the same page otherwise it is going to negatively effect your marriage. You shouldn't feel like a guest in your own home.

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  • emilydoll
    11 years ago

    ... It's your house. This is unacceptable you to take some charge, you shouldn't live like that if it makes you uneasy and doesn't work for you.

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  • MoeLester
    11 years ago

    Tell him exactly how you feel, just as you told us :) he'll most likely agree and give his brother-in-law a certain amount of time to get back on his feet and out of your house.
    I believe that most men don't take action until they see that they have someone to back them up or they realize that while the situation may not be all that annoying, bothersome, hurtful, uncomfortable, etc. for themselves, it is to someone they love and care about

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  • oops91
    11 years ago

    I have been in a similar situation. You shouldnt have to feel awkward in your own house. Tell your husband about how you are feeling and I am pretty sure he might say he feels the same way too considering the situation. He knows his brother but Im going to assume that he really doesnt know the girl that much if she never really comes out to conversate. He should feel some type of ackwardness to a degree. If anything, tell them straight up how you feel and that you would like them to find their own place.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Have a private conversation with him and explain exactly how you feel. If he is any bit of a decent husband he will listen to your concerns and talk them out with you!

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