Is it normal that i don't like being in love?

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I'm in love with a guy right now. We've been together for 2 years now. Is it normal that I don't like being in love? I feel like it's such a burden. You have to think about that other person before you make decisions, you have to be careful not to hurt them, you have to give them a lot of attention, you have to worry about unimportant things like anniversaries and birthdays, etc. It also puts you in the position to have your heart broken. I feel like love changes you. Sometimes for the better, I'll admit. But not always. My boyfriend is so jealous and controlling. He wasn't like that when we were just dating. I've noticed that I too have become a little jealous. And that really annoys me. I miss my carefree attitude. I realize that most people probably don't agree with me, but I'm just wondering if there are people who feel the same way. I honestly wish I didn't love him so much.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    If you aren't meant to be with each other, then it definitely gets to be a burden, and if you ever feel that, you should break up, because you are doing both of you a disservice. You'll still have those feelings, they are hard to lose, but too many people stay with people they aren't meant to be with, and that just stops you and your mate from finding the one.

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  • lightanddarkness
    10 years ago

    That's normal. Love brings a lot of problems and hurts so much...

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    10 years ago

    Are you sure you are in love? It's not love if it feels like a burden.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Cakes are nice.

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  • Choclateman47
    10 years ago

    That's not true love. Find a different guy. If your sad afterwards find a rebound.

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  • filiasan
    10 years ago

    Love is not supposed to be like this. But I don't think most people know what real love is. If you feel trapped in the relationship, you should live. You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone who supposedly "loves" you.

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  • Dot123
    10 years ago

    Maybe you belong forever alone.

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  • YoungerSis
    10 years ago

    It doesn't sound like you are really in love. You miss your carefree life too much.

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  • Sumi
    10 years ago

    Honey moon is over reality sets in. Are you a teen? twenties? Also how jealous and controlling? Reason is because this is opinion based. I have seen everything from minor annoying boyfriends 'Where you at?' all the way to 'get back in your cage' types.

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    • MusicIsLove
      10 years ago

      I'm in my twenties. Jealous as in he goes insane if anyone looks at me or talks to me. Controlling as in tries to tell me what to wear, where I can/can't go, who to be friends with, wants to know my every move, etc.

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      • noid
        10 years ago

        These controlling types often evolve into abusive partners. Just a warning...i agreewith your feelings about love.

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      • Sumi
        10 years ago

        Gotcha. Noid is right here it is all downhill from there. Last gf used to tell me about every guy she spoke to when we first got together. Found out her ex-boyfriend was that same type. Go free tons of great guys to spend time with who will simply wait for your call.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Then you wouldn't like me. **ejaculates prematurely.

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    I think you've moved past love and into... Well, something else...

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    • disthing
      10 years ago

      Hate :P

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      • Holzman67
        10 years ago

        I was going to say resentment but I'm not sure I don't think this is that clean cut that it can be summed up in a word. Relationships can be very complex

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        • disthing
          10 years ago

          I know, I was just kidding around really :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    **thinks about women's body parts.**shoots white ribbon while watching xena warrior princess

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I...Y...What?

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    • gummy_jr
      10 years ago

      For fuck's sake....

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