Is it normal that i don't let my dad touch me

How long ago did you start having this reoccuring memory that you think was a nightmare? Because if it was very young then why were you having dreams involving sexual activity? Forgive me if i'm wrong but surely a child who hasn't been subjected to these things shouldn't be aware of them to be capable of having dreams involving anything of the like?

It has nothing to do with being American, you ignorant assholes. I agree with the people who said it's about preference. I don't like to be touched by my dad either but that's because we aren't close. But from reading what the poster said she was probably abused by him and it was covered up. It's too elaborate to fabricate from sheer imagination.

I'm sorry, but I think you were abused by your father.
When I was little, I was somehow abused by my relative. He only touched me, and it was only one time, but It made me feel so bad that I couldn't stand him. I felt REPULSED by him. When we touched casually, I overreacted and move away from him.

If you hate him to touch you, it's cause your can't remember but your body does.
Careful with does "nightmares" of yours. I know how they are, and most of them are MEMORIES that you are suppressing.

Sounds like maybe you were "abused" as a very young child, and have been suppressing it. The fact that you can't stand to have your father touch you, tells me that there is something wrong. That doesn't happen for no reason. A Psychologist or a Psychiatrist might be worthwhile to help you work through this. You may find out things that you don't want to know, but you need to know the truth in order to move forward with your life. A hypnotist might be able to help as well. You need to prepare yourself that it is entirely possible that you were molested. It may not have been by your father, but since he is an adult and a man, you may be transferring your emotions and feelings onto him. You definitely need to investigate further, but be prepared for what might come out.

This doesn't have to be abuse. I don't hug or kiss either of my parents, and dislike much contact with any adults, I was never touched as a child so it's not abuse; it's preference.
No one has to appreciate contact.

i let my dad touch me in the calculator, but when he found out that i didn't have one, he went for Jaqueline instead. CALCULATORS FTW!

It really is like an earlier person said, it is a paranoid American thing. We have made it so that any contact an older male has with a younger girl is taboo. It is a shame that that is what this world has come to, but it is what it is. You are perfectly normal, I actually know of a lot of fathers who are the reverse and get dirty looks when they hug their own daughters. It is society's fault really, so don't feel bad.

you really have to be easy in your father !!! he really seems nice to you !!!!! if he was beating you when you were younger it's really normal because he thought that he was teaching you.........when i was young my father used to beat me too but i never put this in mind you will regret all of this when you grow up take it easy before it's too late

Uh-oh, sounds like someone has repressed daddy issues! The only thing that bugs me about when my dad hugs me is that he doesn't realize how strong he is, and he nearly winds me XD

I'm this way too! I don't remember my dad ever touching me inappropriately, but I do have a distant memory of him smothering me with a pillow and beating me when I was a child. But I don't know if it was just a bad dream or not. I feel like if I told someone they'd just say I dreamed it. I feel like there must be some connection though.

I never like my parents to touch me either. I also feel like my dad might think i hate him too, but i don't.

if he beat you... call the fucking cops dumbass.

I think you should see a therapist and do regression therapy or hypnosis. It may be unpleasant, but the doctor can help you come to terms about it. It sounds like he sexually abused you, not just beat you. It would make sense why you don't want to touch him. Don't feel sorry for him, he's sick. Your family should be ashamed of themselves for Turning blind eye to this.

Please see a therapist and get away from them! Good Luck!

HOW IS THAT STUPID!???!?!?!?!?

Just let him touch you. There isn't anything wrong with a little father and daughter/son bonding; as long as he doesn't touch you in those places that you don't want to be touched. I did this to TheChickan once and he got really mad and said "What are you doing".

Ok go To a Person you Trust with it and get help. You dad probably abused you and Even if you don't know for sure you should find out! But Be prepered. Have a friend comming with you someone who is at your Side no matter what. Make sure if its your mom that She is definately on your Side and Not on your fathers. Good Luck!

It depends what you mean by beat you my mum use to break wooden spoons on me use canes ,foot wear, jug cords just about anything she could lay her hands on to get to hit me.

I don't know if you suffered any abuse or not, I don't think with the information there is enough evidence.

I was also beaten as a child occasionally. And I am the same that I can not have my mum or dad touch me in any way. No hugs no kiss. It's just the way I am.
If you think something may have happened and you are trying to block the memory out then you really should approach a professional to help you work through this. Take care

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babe id its really freaking you out maybe you should go she a what it called, one of them doctors to help you understand about your emotions and stuff... Not meaning it in mean way but maybe for the best to go see one x