Is it normal that i don't know if i should keep my bf?

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I met my bf via doing a course. He was helpful and was attentive to my queries. He knew which class I was in and one day decided he would meet me after class. This became a routine.

I feel that he is smart and kind and as class mates it was ok to walk home together. But I never felt strongly passionate towards him. We just got together because it was like that everyday...

Sometimes I feel strong about breaking up, but other times I feel that he cares about me (too much sometimes) and that I should not let go of it even though I don't feel I ve been in love with him. I more or less see him as a good guy who is loyal and cares for me. What is the right thing?

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  • klnmml
    13 years ago

    If you don't like him like a boyfriend you should let him know. The longer you wait to say something the mire it's going to hurt him in the end. If you only stay with him because you feel "obligated" then you will end up resenting him and ruin whatever friendship you may have. Better to end it sooner than later.

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  • Omega-Claws
    13 years ago

    Break it off, the longer you live a lie the more it will hurt him and you

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  • wannabeclear
    13 years ago

    Thank you people. This is the first time I use this.

    I have tried so many times to tell him but his feelings for me is so strong that he basically can't take no for an answer--he gets hurt as soon as I mention it and explains me a whole lot of reasons why we should be together each time. Even if we have a big fight about it he is able to let all the bad things go the very next day.

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  • budbudbud
    13 years ago

    i agree with Omega-Claws ,the longer you stay with this boy the more his feelings with develope for you and the harder it will be to break up with him.

    doing something that feels right (like not hurting him now by holding back the truth) will only deversate him later on.follow your heart.

    hope this helped :)

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  • BeautifulZinnie
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't be with him, I know he seems nice, and everything, but obviously your not that attracted to him. Don't waste his time, or yours being with someone, you clearly think it's best not to be together. Just be friends!
    Be with someone you are crazy about when you first see them, It's a good thing to have a friendship with someone, and be with them, but only if your truly attracted, and not wanting to break up... especially if you feel strongly about breaking up.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I can really relate with you! I think you need to just ask yourself if you see him in your future or not. It hard, but I think that's what it ultimately boils down to Hun :p

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  • Whitneyhouston
    13 years ago

    No love, that's not fair to you. He should see you aren't as happy as you could possibly be. I'd say leave him and find someone who you truly love.. It's not fair for either of you. He also deserves to have the love returned.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    Break up with him, pretty sure he would rather find a gf that is in love with him :)

    also at Matt1993, "HE IS BEING SELFISH?" Is this a joke or you are just that "smart"?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i think u should break up with him. Hes being selffish. hes all carring about what he needs and not what u need. if he really cares about u he'll see. and if he dosent u need to show him. he needs to realize that it takes 2 oars to row a boat straight. if u only have one you will go in circles...

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    If you question it...somethings not right. Break it off and give him the chance to find someone who appreciates him.

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  • McFisticuffs
    13 years ago

    This bloke has no backbone. He needs the pain and heartbreak to man him up. If he cries when you split up with him, tell him as much.

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