Is it normal that i don't have friends just because i am different ?

I just moved into this new city far from my homeland for university. I'm a 18 year old guy. I am perfectly normal. I thank god for keeping me healthy and giving me a lot of stuff other people don't have. Over the past few months, there has been this volcano building up inside me after observing people in today's times. Be it in my class or at the store or anywhere. All I see is people trying to act cool so that others accept them and hang out with them. They sacrifice the "real" version of themselves so easily just because they need someone to validate their existence. No one likes talking to the guy who is sitting all alone in class. No one likes the girl who can't speak English. I mean why ? Who gave them a right to judge people ? I always smile at the guy who is having difficulty adjusting to life in a new country and make it a point to hang out with him for a bit, knowing that this might be the best part of his day. I know that he wont give anything in return to me and I am completely okay with that. Why do people do things for someone with the expectation of a favor or how the person might be useful to them later on. I open doors for old people. I know its such a random act of kindness but no one does it ! I mean how much time does it even take to hold a door open for someone ? 2 seconds ? What life-changing plan are you going to come up with in that time ? I just...I don't know. I feel as if I'm so alone. No one hangs out with me even though most of the people in the class greet me but it's as if they don't like that guy who is nice or different. They like hanging around with people who are so lame and self-centered. Why do these type of people get all the friends and popularity ? I don;t want to say, "I have lost hope in humanity" because that would be selfish of me. I understand that there are people who are nice now a days but I can't seem to find any at the moment ! I know it's a lot of stuff for a teenager to write about and I'm sorry if this is so long. I'm just tired of all this superficial behavior. Where have the acts of altruism gone ?People-pleasing, acting cool, thinking your cool if you don't talk to people who ain't attractive. I've just given up. I walk in at Tesco and ask the cashier, " Hey, how was your day ?" with a smile and they seem so happy. And i genuinely mean it. Who has interest in how their day was right ? Well I do ! And guess what, just because people are different does not mean I'm going to try and fit in with them. Hell with them. They are missing out on a good life. Is there anyone who relates to this ? In short, am I normal ? Thanks for the read.

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84% Normal
Based on 43 votes (36 yes)
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  • Avant-Garde

    Normal, sadly. Society has almost always viewed those that are different as being undesirables.

    When I was growing up I was taught basic manners and I grew into have a very rigid moral code. (my moral code is more flexible now that I'm an adult). Basically, I would look for my ideal morals in people/peers. Often times if I didn't find it in my peers, I would be highly disturbed and disappointed with them. Yet, I would often find those morals that I craved in the adults. The way people raise their offspring has greatly changed. It seems as if more and more young people are materialistic, self-centred and lacking in moral fibre.
    My strangeness more or less made it difficult to make friends and at times(many times) I was an outsider. Now, if you truly want to make friends, why don't look outside of the students at your university? Like a professor or the groundskeeper?

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    • abhitodmal

      Yes exactly ! I'm not going to give up hope though. Who knows, maybe there are teenagers like me. I see your point though. Thank you so much ! It feels nice to know that there are people like you around.

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      • Avant-Garde

        Thank you, you're welcome and good luck. :)

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    • Avant-Garde

      *having

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  • The youth of this world has been degraded ever since media and schools have been taken over by activists and liberals. They're all a bunch of trend setters who manipulate naive and immature people to follow a specific trend or fashion. And who other then stupid teens to brainwash? Teens are stupid. If eating shit was cool, they would eat shit. They have no personality, no back bone, they can't make decisions on their own, so they constantly seek approval from society, or somebody who is cool and gives the impression that they are in control, so teens follow these assholes around, hoping for guidance. Guidance that they don't find at home because nowadays most young people are coming from broken homes, raised by bitter single mothers who want to be mother and father at the same time, yet they fail miserably. Teens are rebellious, they do what they want because there hasn't been someone in their life to discipline them. There hasn't been a father around in most cases. Only a mother who can't control them.

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  • anti-hero

    Google Paragraph.

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    • Please. I can't make myself read more than a few lines if there are no paragraph breaks.

      ...I tried.

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      • anti-hero

        Glad I am not the only one who finds it unbearable.

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  • shuggy-chan

    Mature, definitely ... normal, sometimes I wonder, but I still think so. Most people as they get older and mature grow a bit more caring and self centered, most

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  • DiamondGirl

    U probabally don't have friends, Because you r different, your more mature and polite. Whereas they r probably of bunch of nasty clowns. Don't even waste your time, Look for older people to b friends with. People that age are very immature and self centered. It's always the same.

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    • abhitodmal

      That's what I figured. I do hope that I meet nice people. It's not as if everyone is bad. I had a few good friends back home and by good I mean really good. They were a vital part of my childhood. Anyways thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's good to know that I'm not sounding stupid ! Haha.

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      • DiamondGirl

        You will, You sound like a nice guy. Good luck to ya!

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  • Mersaphe

    so youre an outsider

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  • vagman30

    When I was going to elementary and middle school, all the kids ever talked about was NBA, Super Bowl or all these other sports while I was more into wrestling like WWF or WCW and the kids thought I was weird. When I was in high school, I must've been the only kid who listened to heavy/death metal music like Megadeth, Pantera, Judas Priest, etc, while the rest of the kids were into Brittany Spears, N'Sync, or Backstreet Boys. Again, they all thought I was weird. Some even went as far as calling me a devil worshipper. Even at work, I'm the only person that loves Godzilla while all the other employees talk about movies like Avatar, or Twilight, or Hunger Games. Seriously, I feel like I'm an alien in this world.

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  • handsignals

    TOO LONG DIDN'T READ.

    I don't have any friends either because I suck.

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    • DiamondGirl

      No you don't suck and I'll b your friend! Are u a guy?

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      • handsignals

        yes, I only have one friend and she's a hooker. Please read my post, everyone thinks I'm trollin.
        http://isitnormal.com/story/iin-ive-fallen-in-love-with-a-hooker-169796/

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  • Shelbs

    I would say it's normal since different and nice people do tend to have a more difficult time meeting others. This is especially true in the teen years and early twenties. It also depends on what university you go to and in what town. I would suggest you join a club of interest or work part-time. Jobs can be great places to meet people.

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