Is it normal that i don't have any friends offline?

So I'm the type of a guy that never had lots of friends.
Mainly because I don't know how to start a conversation random person/stranger, also I wouldn't know what to talk about because I don't know that persons likes and interests. I'm not interested in going to pubs, discos,...and other random stuff that interests people of my age. Some of the friends that I had before moved away or changed (started drinking and fucked up their life).
The stuff I find interesting is technology (computers, networking,..etc), dogs, chatting with people in english (it's my 3rd language). So that's that. Should I worry about not having any friends or not?

ps currently I'm 25 years old.

Voting Results
56% Normal
Based on 61 votes (34 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 9 )
  • Paradiddle

    Don't even worry about it, man~ I'm the same way. I may have had a few GOOD friends but most have moved away. I had some nice acquaintance level friends from high school but we hardly keep in contact now. People on a job are friendly enough but no one I'd trust my life story with. I don't like popular music, movies and TV shows so when people try talking about things like that, they'll say "You haven't seen [insert movie here]?", I say "Thats what I just said". Instead, I like anime, certain instruments and video games (and their music).

    I won't give you copy and paste advice like "Go out and try talking to people", it always isn't that simple in my experience. Now if you go places where people are already into your interests then things change. I like games so I've met plenty of online friends via MMOs. A game store, arcade or game tournament would do it too. I'm sure you can talk about computers with people in various places like that also. Its better to have a few really good friends than a truckload of so-so ones, doesn't matter to me if they are offline or online.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • princepericles

    Live your life in the way that makes you happy, but bear in mind that there may be aspects of friendship that are difficult to cultivate online. In particular, many friendships are nurtured by shared, real-life experiences, both positive and negative, the sense that one is in another's life.

    Online, you will never help a friend move or look after their kids or let them teach you to drive a stick shift,or stay the night with them because they've suffered a loss and don't want to be alone -- you see what I mean.

    And then of course, there's romantic relationships. Do you ever intend to have a relationship like that? With sex, let's say? That means meeting people in person, too.

    One more thought: most people don't make friends by approaching strangers. Most people make friends through mutual activities like work or school or whatever. If you don't want real world friends, that's cool, but if you do, you might take your interests out in the world a bit. You like dogs? Why not volunteer at your local animal shelter? Then you can help real dogs, too and who knows, maybe meet some people you like.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Avant-Garde

    I guess you could say that my situation is somewhat similar to yours. I had offline "friends" but at some point, somewhere in last or the year before, I didn't feel connected to them any more. There were different age ranges and I had a different schooling background than all of them. I could no longer relate to them and the ones that were in or around my peer group, really got on my nerves with silly teenage bemusing, lack of morals and so on. I felt alienated from them. So more or less, I started to slowly distance myself from them. Even the ones that I seemed to be able to relate with somewhat, I no longer felt like I could or wanted to talk to them. (I should probably also add that I never saw them except in the summer despite the fact, that we all lived in the same state and possibly not the far away from each other.) Anyway, I feel more of a connection to my friends online as opposed to ones offline. I think it's normal that you in the situation that you are in.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • StinkyPoo

    As long as you have one true friend, you've got it made :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • D.J

    as aliceee93 i also loved to be ur friend.to show others we have also large friend circle.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • fiy

    thx ppl.
    (I started this question)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Dib

    I'm the same. Ever since I graduated high school (which was two years ago), all of my so called 'friends' have been disappearing one right after another. The few that stayed betrayed me and disappointed me to the point where I don't even consider them friends anymore.

    Making new friends is difficult for me too. I don't like most public places since none of that seems fun to me. Plus I have a slight fear of crowds. Then to actually start a conversation with a stranger... geez. I don't blame you and in my opinion you're completely normal.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • shuggy-chan

      Isn't invader zim ur friend/enemy?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • Dib

        I don't even watch invader zim....

        Comment Hidden ( show )