Is it normal that i don't have any friends?

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I am a 30 yr old female. I have no friends- not a single one, although I have quite a few on Facebook. But these are all past friends from high school. The only people I really talk to is my family. For the most part, I'm fine with it. I love coming home and having no obligations at all. But every now and then, I do get a little lonely. I'm also an introvert, so although I can carry a conversation, I'm not likely to strike one up or pursue it. When I did have friends, I found it to be more of a chore, although I did have a lot of good times, it just seemed mentally and emotionally exhausting for me. Is it normal to not have even one friend?

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  • squirrelgirl
    10 years ago

    I'm the same way. 23 years old, and the only regular social interaction I get is from my parents and brother. I view friendships as more of a nuisance than anything else. I'm not lonely and I greatly treasure my solitary hobbies (mostly arts and crafts).

    Nonetheless, I sometimes feel like a loser for not having any friends, and wonder if I should make some just because society says I should.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You are the type introvert that is normal and healthy. Plus, you've got your family.

    Some people get down on introverts and it's not fair, not everyone has to love the excitement of regular social interactions.

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  • loopoo
    10 years ago

    I'm 20 and today my friend of like 8 years said she wished she'd never met me, and im cool with that. I feel free now I don't have to put up with her controlling attitude.

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  • Evenios
    10 years ago

    Nothing wrong with that. I think hanging out with family and all is good enough. I think todays sociaity is that you have to be friends with everyone. and it ends up being shallow. I dont really have any "real close" friends either though lately i am gaining a few more friends that seem to at least to talk to me a little.

    honestly i say in life if you can just make one real friend thats what matters. dont have to be a social butterfly because honestly if you spread yourself too thin then you really cant be a good friend for someone who might need it! and you know focusing on your family is nothing wrong with that. too many people dont give a crap about family today and i think sticking with that is important.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    I don't have friends either but you could be mine. Peterrabbyt2 at yahoo dot ca

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  • dietcoke
    10 years ago

    It's normal not to have any friends at some points in our lives. However, as you say have been feeling lonely and frustrated, it would never feel right if you stay unchanged. People won't come to you automatically as friends, you just need to show that you care about others, gradually and persistently. It doesn't hurt to message to say hi to someone. Try volunteering, or join a social (academic/religious/charity, etc.) group that you're interested in. I am sure you will meet new people. Although you can't be friends with everyone you meet in life, it is still nice to socialize and gain a network of people.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    You've got no friends, no friends at all. People think it's funny but you don't at all.

    That song might make you feel better, or the same since you don't care.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    You can be my friend. I will be very kind to you.

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