Is it normal that i don't have any close friends to hang out with

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I am in year 12 and ever since 8th grade the good friends I had all decided to split up. I don't have any friends I can just ring up and hang out with. It's so embarrassing and my boyfriend of 2 years always is asking me when his going to meet my friends so him and his friends and me and my "friends" can all hang out. I don't even know what to say to him like oh yeah sorry I don't have any friends how emabarrasing. I look at all my peers and my boyfriends friends girlfriends and my boyfriends family and they all have mates they can call up and hang out with some one to be themselves around I dont have this. I feel like a freak like Im nice and pritty and yes I am a little shy but why doesn't anyone want to hang with me? I try I ring my mates that I havnt seen in a while and they don't reply or they say their busy I mean I get invited to social gatherings on rare occasions but I don't have those good friends that actually want to hang out with me, meet my family, meet my boyfriend or just sit and chat over a cup of coffee. I'm turning 18 soon and my boyfriend is looking forward to partying with me but what's the point of having a party when there is no friends to invite :( . I find it reallly embarrassing and it's making me feel quite depressed if there is any teenage girls out there who feel this way I would love to be friends! I swear if another girl my age rang me up and invited me somewhere that would be the most exiting thing or even if an old friend decided to contact me. :( please people advice!

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    At least you're still in school and have a chance to meet lots of people. You should make friends before you leave school or it will be really hard for you, at home alone.

    So many people are in the same position but maybe there is an interest you could pursue where you coul meet other people.

    Good luck.

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    • Tina2456
      11 years ago

      Thanks for da advice I have many interests I participate in pole dancing which is so fun

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  • Jane2me
    11 years ago

    Having close friendships take "work" as does any relationship. It is true, the best way to have a good friend is to be a good friend. You need to chose someone, old or new, and work on being the friend to her as you would want her to be to you. If that doesn't work out, don't be discouraged. You are very young and you have many opportunities to find those special people. Just know, friends come and go through life. Some will be lifelong friends and others will be close to you for a shorter time, for many different reasons. But friends don't just appear, they take some time and work. Look around and I promise you there are gals just like you, hoping to be friends with somebody.

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  • Beautyblogger
    11 years ago

    I feel exactly the same. I've had some trouble with schools in the past year, had I move to a different school twice so I've been really busy and haven't really kept in touch with my close friends and now I feel like ive lost everyone. I'm really worried that when I start the next year I won't find any new good friends because I really miss having those people to talk to. Hope your situation gets better, maybe stop waiting for your old friends and try and find some new one or if not then be really honest with your old ones and just ring then up and tell them how you feel. Theyd probably understand cause right now they may not have a clue how your feeling. Good luck :) oh btw I'm in year 12 too but have to start again next year.

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    • Tina2456
      11 years ago

      Yeh I moved school too because I couldn't stand trying to socialise and hang out with my old friends they always had exuses to not hang out but then they tell me that miss me and that we have to hang out so frustrating

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  • gncp
    11 years ago

    let them feel that u exists...
    maybe u dont hang out wid them,, and their just doing the same to u... and/or u r the type of person w/c they consider as a "party pooper"...
    Go out and socialize, and soon u will find real friends u r looking for.. :)

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    • Tina2456
      11 years ago

      I call I text. I fb they don't reply or try say they are busy it's so hard it's like awkward to ask them but they constantly say they miss me

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      • gncp
        11 years ago

        then i think its time to move on... they dont care and they dont desrve to be ur friend... its time to find a new one..

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