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So I'm In a new place, been here about two and a half months. I have acquaintances, people I get along with, but no one who I can really talk to and share my real feels with.
I feel alone and out of place.
Is it normal?
reminds me of this social networking/forum I used to frequent ages ago. The people on it seemed really cool and down-to-earth. But once you got to know them, you realized they were seriously fucked up.
They'd blurt out everyone's secrets and post them online (after promising never to do such a thing)-and cause other kinds of drama. Fortunately I've always been anonymous and never took such sites seriously. But since then, I've always been suspicious of people online.
Of course I appreciate the jokes and insights people post, but I wonder how many of them are normal or insane.
http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-for-two-girls-sleep-together-behind-boyfreind-back-127580/ check my post ? Also to you lonely person you do have us to talk to hopefully thats some help as this is reasonable replacement for auctual exsistance and most real poeple are stupid why not chat to us seemingly rejected ones .
Well you are relatively new there, just give it a bit of time and make the effort. It must be horrible not having close friends:(
Personally, i'd rather have a few close friends, than everyone being my best pal, that's impossible. When you find a friend, u can see by the way u relate, if u can talk non-stop for hours, smile, and laugh. That's your new BF.
Well I've found it's true what they say, the friends you make in university become your friends for life. Partly I also willed it to happen-in uni, I vetted a number of people and got in a good group that I'm happy with.
Now we still hang out and laugh our heads off about our experiences in university and after. Plus they've stayed friends with me while I was going through some very difficult times (in the past)-usually people tend to run away in those periods.
I did have a few great friends from high school but we really drifted apart and lost touch. I do hope to see them again once my life settles down.
The interesting thing is that the relationships I've made through work have been less deep and lasting. So I'm glad I build my group from uni and really have no need to add new friends to my list.
In your case I say give it time-be slow, don't rush anything, but strike when the iron is hot. Use opportunities to build and strengthen your relationship with them. Over time they won't notice that they've become really close friends with you. Just don't make your plan apparent.
People can smell desperation and they will run screaming away from you. So always be chill and act like you don't need them. Works the same way in dating I guess.
Me too. Just keep hope, go out, and try to start up conversations with random people. Then after a while of talking, say something like, you seem pretty cool, we should hang out sometime.. wanna exchange numbers? Idk. Something like that. Actually, you might wanna re-word that differently. But just say something like that. You'll be fine. ;)
I feel the same I moved here my senior year of highschool. I have one school friend who lives in a different state. My best friend lives on the other side of the state. I am married so at least I have him. But I miss having friends. And I have no clue how to make them.
Just get involved in activities where there's certain kinds of people you want to get to know. Take courses in university or join some clubs.
You'll find there are others in your situation looking for the same thing. There are also online dating sites like Plenty of Fish, but to build a friendship takes time and common interests, so that's more of a longshot.
My life is fine when it comes to friends/family, however my problem/the gap in my life, is meeting hot women like I used to when I was younger. It's harder now that I'm older, working and have less time/opportunities to try to pick up them up.
So I'm trying the online dating thing, my network of contacts and so forth. It doesn't help that I have high standards too-from dating hotties in the past. :P
Same here bro
But I've been here all my life
At least you have acquaintances
some people have more difficulty making friends on that level of depth, because it seems they think too much more than most people.
Yes. I have been living in the same place for 18 years and it wasn't until a year ago that I met my best friend.
That's life for you. You go through periods where you aren't close to anyone then someone walks right into your life and you are best friends, even though it may not last forever. Who knows.