Is it normal that i don't have a girlfriend?

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i'm gonna be 20 in a month!!

there was a girl in my college - a senior in front of whom i always pussed out,numbed out in awe as if she asked me to castrate myself,and thats why i could never talk to her.
my friends told me i was doing the "putting the pussy on a pedestal" thing

she was very sweet looking and beautiful, very very charismatic
. this year she passed out

apart from her, there are many other girls though to whom i took a fancy.
most of them out of my league as guys would say (my friends say so atleast.. damn assholes) although a few of my friends do encourage to have a high self esteem, act normally, say hi and make a girlfriend.. but i just can't get to doing it!
normally i'm very much befuddled by what to say to a girl! lord help me

i mean, i'm geeky with all computer and internet stuff,and i'm good in programming.
sure as hell i could crack up a joke in geek language,like in pointers in C++ (yeah you google them.. really funny)
but to a normal person that might not click or so i think to myself.
i mean the only time i'm talking to girls is when the programming labs are. i'm there debugging daddy ;)

so what the hell do i talk to a girl about or approach her?! and that's the problem i haven't had a single conversation with ANY girl of my liking

so i came here because my friends think that's abnormal. they say even geeky guys get girls atleast by freshman year in college, and its gonna be my final year in 2 months time, so i'm tagged "chicken"
so i ask you guys, is this normal?

and one more thing: my parents do term me sometimes unsocial and loner, because i'm always satisfied with my little universe of programming and internet and computer games and close group of friends.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    I can't talk to girls either, especially if they are attractive. My self confidence gets flushed down the toilet when I see a very attractive girl. Yes I'm also a virgin. But at least you're doing well in college and are passionate about programming and computers. Girls love when a guy is passionate about something.

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  • MichelleZB
    12 years ago

    This is normal. Keep being a kind person and live your life. The right girl will turn up, and it will get easier to talk to them if you just stay friendly and focus on making friends.

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  • Wicked999
    12 years ago

    you sound like a lonely guy. I'm kind of the same, only that I'm a girl, and I'm not as old as you :P

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    ask a girl out to a movie, thats fun. you dont have to talk just meet, watch the movie then a couple of drinks and go home. start there

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  • mmshelle
    12 years ago

    lol I love how I_steal_free_bread is telling you to get some pussy instead of a girlfriend, does he not realize that we aren't like that, wait never mind his name is about pussy.... Anyways, if the problem is you cant talk to women easily try online dating, it worked for me :D

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    u sure ur not gay? u should grow a garden

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  • I_steal_free_bread
    12 years ago

    You should be partying like American Pie not worrying about a girlfriend

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